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Just One Look Grassroots

Discussion about practical ways to bring the Just One Look Method to family, friends and acquaintances.

Word of mouth is the single most effective way to bring a fresh idea to individuals and cause them to actually try what is being suggested. It is slow to spread, but sure in its effectiveness.

Another way to reach more people

Hi John and Carla,

I have recently watched a few new interviews at www.conscious.tv. They have interviewed many people about their experiences with non-duality etc. I think that your simple suggestion to "look at yourself" would be a welcome message there. I hope this is helpful on "the way forward".

love

David

JOL - Practicalities...reaching a wider audience

Dear John & Carla

As a way of getting your message out to as many people as possible, twitter seems to be the communication of choice by many people across the world - especially the younger generation.Twitter is also designed for short / brief messages - such as Just One Look.I agree with Mike from an earlier posting that the #occupy movement has captured the imagination of millions across the world. I feel that one way of rapidly expanding your audience is to utilise the interest and attention this movement has captured.

Hashtags such as #occupyyou , #occupyu , #occupyme , #occupyoneself , #occupyonesnature , and my favourite #occupyhere ...... could all be used along with brief messages that you approve - such as something like:

Turn the beam of your attention inward. Try to make a direct, unmediated contact with what it actually feels like to be you, just plain and simple you. Just One Look + link to website etc.

If you were to come up with half a dozen or so twitter messages...the community that have access to twitter could periodically send these out on these occupy hashtags. I believe these tweets will be shared further by the occupy followers as everything that is valued is re-tweeted.

Hope you are both well.

Thank you both for your work.

Kevin

Money Talk

I thought about John and Carla's request for donations, and I weighed that against what they said about never charging for anything. Then I thought about how the world runs on currency, and nothing gets done without it. And I considered how I don't work for free (I sell crochet patterns on Etsy), and how I expect a reasonable "return" for my efforts. Then I considered all I had gained from the messages of John's talks - podcasts, book, videos, web conferencing. And how all that costs currency and continuing effort from John and Carla. So then I assigned a real-world value in currency to what I received through joining the web conferences, downloading the book and downloading podcasts (by comparing the value of these things to similar things that I have paid for in the past). Consequently, I will donate to John and Carla that dollar value. And I encourage anyone else who can to do the same. Thank you and I wish the blessings of a Happy Holiday to everyone!

Jenny

Ideas and Suggestions?

Dear John and Carla

Our meeting on Friday underscored how important it is for us to come up with new ideas on how the Just One Look Foundation can gain continuing financial stability. Existing emergency to emergency is not going to work anymore, especially in light of the needs of the Just One Look experiment.

I think we all left the meeting aware of our need for increased funding and determined to seek out potential donors or experienced fundraisers. Do you think we should ask others in the Community to do the same thing?

In addition, I propose we ask members and forum contributors for ideas and suggestions. Even if they don't personally have the time to pursue those leads, their suggestions can guide and inspire us.

Let's start a dialogue so we can identify the resources necessary to solve this problem.

With love,

Bill Corcoran

Effects of the looking and money pledges..

I just wanted to share a bit about the effects of looking on my life... I was a devotee of Osho for thirty years and all of this experience was incredibly rich and life-affirming.

The looking for me seemed to be pretty obvious from the beginning, this sense of me just a little obscured by 'spiritual ideas' of what I should look like. Anyway I always had a spiritual dialogue going on in my head Osho's words pointers to the truth ec. etc. going on and on... I must say although I do listen to John a lot he has really succeeded in not turning this into a teaching, I don't hear his voice in my head HA! or if I do it's "just look"... I am the only one who can do it...

The self-reliance thing just never seemed possible for me until recently. I feel as the looking has really taken over my life, as the fear of getting it wrong lessens I am feeling less and less at stake in anything I express or don't express... it's all just fine and such a relief to feel I tell the truth more.

Also about money... since I began pledging to this work I am amazed at the abundance in my life... I live on a small pension and recently my brother offered me an all expense paid trip to Florida... My daughter loves to spend time with me since I'm not trying to control her life and she's always offering me gifts and outings... I really feel this trust that all I need will be provided. Isn't money an energy and we need it to keep this alive and kicking?

Maureen

Finding Happiness

Finding happiness

Has been our focus seems like forever.

One day we are; next day we aren't.

Hoping for that perfect blend, the right balance.

Anticipating the day we can always have it.

We know happiness is only known now,

but that knowledge doesn't affect our search.

Because we can infer happiness is a state of mind,

we work to make things right in our minds.

To say happiness is elusive misses the point,

which is that happiness is shrouded in movement,

and like all states and experiences is subject to change.

Happiness comes and goes like everything else.

This indictment against finding happiness

also alleges that the most opportune circmstances

will not insure a happy state of mind,

nor will the worst necessarily deny one.

Here is where we can turn our ship around

by striking the pursuit of happiness from our aim

and replacing it with an endeavor that may work:

the elimination of its antithesis: misery and suffering.

The linchpin in eliminating misery and suffering

is revealed in our failed efforts to nail down happiness.

The key is to search for that which doesn't move

by wresting our attention toward that which does.

The search does not include what we find,

because if we find it today, it wasn't there yesterday,

and it surely won't be there tomorrow.

What appears true one day may be false the next.

This leaves the search itself and the searcher,

the only parts of the equation which do not change.

Without a searcher there is no search;

without a search there is no searcher.

The focus of our attention is thus turned inward,

away from the distraction of our circumstances,

away from the chorus of our states of mind,

and toward the source directing the search.

trimpi

Spanish translations

Hi John,

Just wanted to say I don't see any Spanish translations of your books(unless I'm missing something) and would be willing to get them translated as I live here in Mexico. The selection would of course be up to you. Preferably texts that are succinct and that you think may offer the most for the amount that can be translated. I would be willing to pay for this.I was also a translator myself so some of it I could do. Any revision would be done by a professional and subject to any approval you may able to get.

I meet so many people down here who are looking for alternatives to the organized forms of religion. Mexico is a strongly Catholic country but in talks I've had with people about this I haven't encountered any opposition. On the contrary and this odd, most people seem to know exactly what I mean. The best thing of all is that it involves no change in their current beliefs, which are rather entrenched for some. It would be great to able to refer people who only speak Spanish to your books and your site for clarification.

If this idea appeals to you let me know,

In friendship,

Antony

Enjoying the book "Look At Yourself"

Just a quick note to say I received "Look At Yourself" the other day (from an online book seller). I'm enjoying it immensely, and really appreciate the honest, open and "right in the open" approach John takes in explaining the practice and answering people's questions. Although most of the information necessary is on the Internet (free), I still enjoy reading books "old school" style.

I've been on "the path" for about 20 years, and let's just say through a variety of groups/teachings. When I found this simple message (around 6 months ago), I knew instantly it was something that would help lots of seekers by virtue of its simplicity and ease.

I also find it quite amazing that this manifestation (and a few others) has come at this time, and largely thanks to the Internet (I wouldn't have even known about this particular approach if it weren't for a podcast and newsletter).

Kind Regards,

Dean.

Sydney, AUS.

Self-reliant expression

I've been wondering lately about how we might infiltrate the current circuits of human communication individually, self-reliantly, as in the arts, science, politics, music, philosophy, psychology, and god forbid maybe even spirituality, with the suggestion of looking inward at what's real. I was inspired to write a post the other night that I realize now was off topic for the course of recovery forum. I can't remember what I wrote but the general context revolved around a coming of age novel I'm writing as part of a degree program I'm in, which is inspired by the new perspective that is forever streaming before me these days. In this novel, the direct and simple suggestion to look for the sake of looking comes only after the typical (though story specific) tragedy and horror of separation - as it has for me in real life - as well as just about everyone I know. All of the heart felt classics (Huck Finn, The Lord of the Rings, The Secret Life of Bees, War and Peace) and all true hero's journey's resonate with us, but fail to make this simple suggestion. Yes the simplicity could get lost in the powerful emotions, but at least it would be there after the storm subsides. Writing and music are a karmic draw for me, and I think I could use these talents to infiltrate the common populace. I'm also sure that everyone has a gift to give and may be able tag it with "look at yourself." I know it's like doing an end run, but I also know that we all have a unique (though infinitesimal) perspective, and karmic gifts and talents that could be used as bait (perhaps the marketing industry might actually have some real usefulness here) to attract a wider audience. And I'm pretty sure that anyone who has fallen in love with life (though petty habits of mind may persist for many years) will certainly want to participate in ways that subvert the current money paradigm, which is still a major part of human evolution, at this point. I know that these ideas might stem beyond what might seem "practical," but I'm curious, and that human trait has yet to really evolve, I think.

Always in love

Mike

An Important Message from John and Carla Sherman

Dear friends,

We believe that what we are about here is radically different from everything that has gone before. We believe, for example, that the sole cause of all pathological personality traits in human beings is the fear of life. We believe that fear of life comes upon us accidentally at or near our birth, and we believe that all hatred of self and others, all greed, all pathological aggression, all narcissistic preoccupation with self and lack of regard for others are the fruit of that fear.

We know that anyone who will try to do the simple movement of the mind's eye that we call 'looking at yourself' will see the sense of fearfulness and distrust that ruins the experience of life quietly dissolve. And when the fear is gone, it's gone for good and in its absence, a profound regeneration of the personal psychology begins that culminates in full reconciliation with our own lives. We go sane, and our ability to use the light of natural human intelligence begins to blossom and to bear new fruit. We fall naturally into love with our lives. It's that simple.

We know all this to be true because of our own shared experience over more than thirteen years together, and also because of the reports we receive from thousands of people all over the world who have done this ridiculously simple act and are themselves experiencing that reconciliation in their own lives.

The act of looking that causes this is a perfectly natural and easy movement of attention, and it is just as natural and easy to suggest it to friends and acquaintances. It is, in fact, so easy to do, and its harmlessness is so self-evident, that just listening carefully to its description will most likely cause it to be done on the spot. And once it's done, all that follows is automatic and, so far as we can see, irreversible.

Click to watch videos in which people all over the world speak about how the looking has changed their lives.

Carla and I, together with a growing number of people all over the world, believe that this simple act offers the possibility of nothing less than the full redemption of human life for all human beings.

With that in mind, we have developed a project with the sole purpose of bringing the suggestion to look at yourself to the ears of at least ten percent of all of humanity within the next three to five years. We seek ten percent because that percentage of people has been proven to constitute a critical mass from which news of the act of looking, its promise, and its results should spread like wildfire throughout the entire species.

The project has two components:

1. A grassroots campaign

First and most importantly, we will develop a comprehensive grassroots campaign to spread the news of what we're doing in the ordinary way humans speak with one another about their lives.

People who join us in this grassroots effort will learn and teach one another how to use personal ads in local newspapers, letters to editors, public bulletin boards, bumper stickers, business cards and the like to bring the basic idea of the looking to the wider public.

But the most effective means of bringing this idea to the world will be found in ordinary, natural conversation between those who have seen the results of the act for themselves and the people they spend time with throughout the course of their ordinary lives: at work, at home, shopping, commuting, watching TV, doing the dishes, and so forth. That kind of communication requires something much more interesting and skillful than mere evangelistic fervor; it requires that we learn quietly to attend to the conversations we find ourselves in, so that the matter of the fear and the looking can arise unforced and naturally in the course of the conversation.

This person-to-person communication is by far the most effective of all means for bringing new ideas to the attention of large communities quickly.

2. A media campaign

The second part of our plan is to make use of the combined power of the public media - radio, tv, billboards, the internet, movies, etc. - to touch the eyes, ears and minds of a very large number of people for a moment just long enough to describe the act clearly, so that they can attend to the suggestion and try it. This very fast injection of the idea into the consciousness of the human community should on its own create a huge leap in the recognition and awareness of the looking in world, and that wide awareness should also bring about a widespread willingness and desire to learn more about it.

We believe that the combined effort of the grassroots campaign and the public media campaign will quickly trigger an exponential expansion of awareness of the looking throughout the entire human community. We already have the technical resources and a sound base of operations in place to maintain the grassroots component of our project. And we are confident that, as the grassroots campaign begins to gain traction in the world, the money and expertise needed to carry out the public media component will quickly become available.

Money matters

The only real problem now is that we don't have enough money coming in to keep the grassroots component going. Truth is, we don't even have enough money to keep what we are doing now alive. Right now, for example, we face a $5,000 shortfall this month.

And to tell you the truth, this is not unusual for us. This is pretty much the way it has been with us for thirteen years. But through it all, our work has managed to survive and grow, even in the face of almost certain failure. From the start, the survival of this work has been due entirely to the generosity of you, and people like you, who have seen the promise of what we have been trying to do and have kept it alive by donating money.

Now, once again, without your immediate help to cover the current shortfall, the community forums, the video blogs, the podcast, the ebooks, the transcriptions, the translations, and everything else we offer (always free of charge) is in danger of going dark very soon.

We doubt that will happen, because we know that enough of you will once again gladly and generously give what's needed to solve the immediate problem and keep this work alive. You always have, and because of you, this work will survive.

But this time we want more than mere survival.

Without long term, reliable funding to stabilize and secure the foundation of the grassroots campaign over the next three to five years, we will probably not even reach the point of developing a media campaign.

The funding we need to support the grassroots component of the project amounts to about $8,000 a month, which happens to be exactly what it would cost to keep our current level of activity alive and financially secure. This is because, as we mentioned earlier, we already have built the infra-structure, technical structure, and web presence we need to support the level of grassroots organization and communication that will be needed for the success of the project of bringing the looking to the world.

As things stand now, our income is nowhere near this optimum amount. In fact, we barely manage to squeak by, and then only by intensive day-to-day micromanagement of what money we do have, and the periodic plea for emergency help. We have no chance whatever to complete the project of bringing this good news to the world without financial stability.

Please donate now to keep alive the promise of this truly unprecedented discovery that heals the wound of fearfulness and alienation and redeems the experience of life for human beings everywhere.

Please donate.

Imagine a world...

Imagine for a moment what it might be like to live in a world in which all human beings are free of the cloud of existential fear altogether. A world in which selfishness in human affairs has pretty much vanished; a world free of hatred, greed, and pathological aggression; a world in which all humans have come to know the experience of their natural, existential connectedness; a world in which all have come to notice and attend to the power of human community infused with the light of human intelligence.

Imagine a world where the power of human intelligence, now wasted on matters pertaining mostly to egotistical issues of self-defense and the struggle to dominate, has automatically returned to its natural interest, which is the quest for greater understanding and skill in the adventure that is the natural experience of human life.

We believe that world is now within our reach. Not by faith or surrender, nor any form of understanding, transcendence, transformation or escape from human life; not by miraculous events in consciousness brought about by magical incantations or group meditations, nor by any other thing that directs attention away from actual human life.

We believe that this is the world we will have, if we can get this one simple, harmless act of looking to be heard by enough people in a short enough period of time, so that the news of its power reaches the ears of all human beings.

Now, we know that all this might sound, well, to put it politely, a little too good to be true. It often seems that way to us, too.

But the reports of success keep coming in - in emails, forum postings, notes sent through our AnonTalk app, postcards and letters in the mail, conversations in meetings online, in person, and on the phone, comments made in the request forms for the free downloads on our website, messages left on the foundation phone, and chance meetings with people that we run into at the grocery store here in Ojai - a slow, steady rain of confirmation of the power of the simple act of looking to change everything.

We have the organizational base. We have the technology, we have the structure, we have people freshly freed from the fear, and willing to help get the word out about what we believe to be the actual cure for all human misery. What we don't have is enough money. And when we look around at the millions of dollars routinely being raised for projects and good causes everywhere, the amount of money we need seems trivial in comparison.

If you feel drawn to the promise and the possibility of what we are speaking of here; if you have noticed the effects of the loss of the fear of life begin to appear in your own life; if you have an interest in helping us in any way, please do. Help us test the power of this simple act to bring about the fulfillment of human life by bringing news of it to all of humanity.

Please don't hesitate even for a moment to chip in whatever you can. And please join the conversation in the Community Center forums. That's where the effort to understand the power of this act and translate the redemption of our lives into useful, self-reliant work in the world is already taking place.

Thank you for your time and attention. We hope all this talk of money hasnÂ't been disturbing to you. We don't know how to talk about money very well, but we are so filled with hope of what is possible, that we must try to do all that we can to make it happen.

John & Carla

Please donate.

Talking about the problem

To me the talk about the cause of the fear (as in trauma in the birth) is unconvincing, and the cause talk maybe scare people away. My wild guess about the cause is that human evolution took a wrong direction genetically. But it's just speculations and best to leave it, or clearly convey that talk about the cause is just speculations. And just state that there is suffering and insanity.

Also talk about the "fear" as the problem seems to me like a word that is too narrow to describe what it's about, or i may be wrong. It makes me think of a simple feeling or phobia that only some people will relate to as a problem. Isn't suffering a better word? Or angst.

Just listened to the first Grassroots meeting...

Hi Carla and John and everybody,

I have not been able to be online regularly in the past half year due to finances... However I have been able to catch up on podcasts from time to time and just today I found the recording of the first grassroots meeting. There were lots of great suggestions and comments which I found helpful. I have had many interesting experiences with sharing the suggestion to look at yourself and recently there have been some interesting local discussions with some of my friends who have benefited from this also. One idea thrown around involved us producing some sort of documentary following the emergence of this act among humans. There was great input from all involved.

Additionally and more relevant to the recent grassroots discussion, I plan to submit some sort of Just One Look logo and graphic starting point that could be shared and used by those who would like to have business cards etc.

I think there is also some potential for the production of a small leaflet which could incorporate the graphics which I had previously developed for the planned animated "how to look" video.

I will do a little work on these items during the quiet moments next week and share them before the next Grassroots meeting.

Love,

David A

How did you do it?

Hi all,

I suspect that everyone in this forum has tried to share the act of just one look with at least one other person. When you did, it may have been well received or not; you may have felt it was worthwhile to share this again or you may have been discouraged by the response. (At other times, you may have had no idea how it was received.) Perhaps you saw an opening when look at yourself came to mind but you couldn't manage to speak about it.

I think it would be helpful to all of us if we shared our attempts (or lack of attempts). We can learn from each other.

I, personally, gave a speech about the looking to my Toastmaster's group (a captive audience of about 20 people.) It was extremely well received as a "speech." I have no idea if anyone followed my directions during the speech or tried it again after that day or was interested in following up with the website. I also include the process sometimes while leading a meditation. So basically, I find it easier to teach the process to a group (without any preliminary commentary).

Other than my husband and one of my sons, I have not mentioned it outside these venues, even when I have had the impulse to. I feel shy in bringing it up. I have some misguided idea that I am saying, "I know what your need." and it will be discounted as another gimmick before they even try it. What I feel I need is some openings (like the massage therapist who mentioned her mother looking in the mirror and not feeling as old as she looks; we have all had that experience).

What about you? What have been your experiences or your fears about sharing Justonelook. It would be very helpful to me. Lera

You Tube

John,

Just finished watching the live you tube video. It was simple, beautiful & to the point! You did great.

Perfect teaching tool for those of us who are interested in improving our skill at sharing the looking with others.

Thanks,

LaQuita

Making It Local

Hi all!

As many others here, my attention has lately been more and more focused on the ways we can be effective in comunicating this wonderfull and importent act to others. It is a process and a learning to develop skills to be as effective as possible. It feels wery natural that it is so.

My process of learning is developing real fine, but the only problem is that it is developing in Swedish and in Danish and in my local context. Of course it's not a problem, it's wonderfull. But it is a problem to me to combine that with an easy and uncomplicated contact with the forums etc. that all is in English. I found it some times hard and exhausting to write of my process of learning in English. And it seems some times that it effects my natural process here where I live. And I have also seen the great importens in talking your own languge in these matters. Here in Scandinavia we have a tendensy to take on English when we talk about and learn new metods (especially in "spiritual" areas).

I have so much use of the forums and the webbsites etc. and at the same time I have thought of the possibility to also have a, for exemple, a Scandinavian forum.

I would be really greatfull for coments on this. It fills much in me for the moment.

Love,

Niklas

Developing Useful Resources

Hello Everyone,

As we work to find ways of sharing this suggestion (look at yourself) with all of humanity it is clear that we need to develop excellent tools to make this effort efficient.

There is a growing group here at the grassroots forum who all have personal experience with this act and each one of us has had a unique experience coming across the suggestion in the first place.

I am currently working on graphic design and branding and the way they can help to bring focus to and not deter from the suggestion to "look at you". John and Carla have much experience in refining the language used to describe this act so that the words do not take the listener or reader's attention away from the importance of simply trying the act. They have found that many words that are in common use amongst us are very loaded with meaning and significance which distracts us leads us into thoughts and conversations about infinite topics which are beside the point when trying to look at yourself. I believe it is similarly important to refine the graphic language used in bringing attention to this suggestion.

Those of you who are already signed up for the Grassroots Webinar Series and attended a meeting will also have received your invitation to the Grassroots Chat Room. If you haven't received an invitation contact carlasherman@justonelook.org The Grassroots Chat Room is a great place where we can chat in real time and share resources. Please send me a private message (at this forum) if you are interested in meeting in the chat room at a specific time to discuss design, branding, advertising and other similar topics as they relate to this project. If you haven't already checked out the chat room I encourage you to take a look at the conversations and resources that are already there and jump in on the conversation.

It's great to be here working on this project with all of you.

Love,

David

Curiosity

Hello everybody,

I'd like to start a list of possible attention getting or curiosity instilling phrases that have come up in discussions about experiences with life after the looking. This is a creative brainstorming exercise done with the hope of finding useful content for future advertising materials.

An example inspired by today's grassroots online meeting is "Nothing's Missing in Your Life"

When we attempt to make this suggestion to the world at large, not just to the most avid seekers and usual supects, we can try to generate curiosity by using phrases that seem curiously uncommon among the standard pervasive media messages which are generally playing on ideas of lacking and wanting.

Please brainstorm freely. With this exercise it helps to throw every idea on the table and then sift through them and see which ones stand out as the strongest.

Here are a few more ideas to get things started:

"Understanding is entirely optional. It produces Nothing"

"An unprecedented discovery of a tool that a human being can use to rid themselves of the underlying cause of all psychological suffering."

If we post ideas here at the HipChat Grassroots page we will be able to carry on a more fluid conversation without having to wait for posts to be approved. If you are not signed up to participate in the Grassroots online meetings and HipChat but you wish to be please contact carlasherman@justonelook.org

Of course it is equally helpful if you leave your ideas and comments in this thread.

Thanks,

David A

Just One Look Could Change Everything

Please read and sign our petition at AVAAZ.

This is a petition unlike any other petition you have heard of. It's not directed to any particular person or organization. It is directed to every human being on the planet. It asks each of them, on behalf of all who have already signed the petition, to read it, try the simple act it describes, and then sign it to acknowledge that they have honored the request and tried it themselves.

The goal of this petition is to have everybody who reads it hear about the act of looking at yourself and actually try it -- just once.

The petition contains the instructions. The text Why This Important explains our understanding of the act and its effects.

The more people sign the petition, the more visibility it will bring to our work. Together, we can really make a difference.

Please read both texts and try the act. Then sign the petition and share it with as many people as you possibly can:

Just One Look Could Change Everything

Facebookgroup

It would be conventient if someone could create a facebookgroup "Recovery from the human condition". Easy for everyone to join, easy to discuss the matter.

QR code

A QR code could be made, to put on t-shirts and anything else maybe accompanied with some short text or the owl, to make people curious. When they scan the code with the smart phone camera it takes them directly to this website/a video about the looking/anything else.

A report and a critique (or question about money)

Dear all,

I don't know where to post this exactly because it is both an introduction/ description of recovery and a report about my first contact with this community

I had my first conscious glimpse of myself around autumn 2011. At that time I never heard of John Sherman, and was following mainly the instructions of Adyashanti, but also lots of other stuff. After that the search was over. The search still tried to come back... but more and more it faded, as did other stuff. Then I met a girl, inviting and challenging me back into relationship with life (I was a classical hermit searching for enlightenment before that). A period of facing a lot of fears happened. Now I'm pretty far into the process of recovery. Life is at is. Full of all the stuff it had before, but more at ease.

Finally I found John Sherman. (2013) What a wonderful voice of simplicity! Finally I am finding a way to talk about this, about what has happened, and maybe even guide others into the simple recognition of what we are.

I read the book, and more importantly watched the videos of the 2011 retreat on youtube. I feel the desire to share this with others, but don't know exactly how that will happen. It needs to sink in and naturally flow out. I'll see how that goes over time. There is no need to change anybody or anything, or let life develop faster as it does. Because change is happening. Everywhere, on every level. A wonderful time to be alive.

So I could not share the petition around, or even the act. I'm not sure why, I'll keep an eye on it and see. But it has given me the tools to speak with others when the discussion naturally arises. And that does happen occasionally.

I see two things when entering this community. Before I begin, let me say that reducing all spirituality to just this act is godsend. In all my spiritual pursuits and experiences, this single moment of looking inward and of recognition has changed 'my' life for ever. I know it is just that one act that has done it. A felt it before hearing of Sherman, and now that knowledge has become conscious. Thank you!

Yet, what bothers me is that the desire to bring the act to all human beings feels missionary or evangelizing, if you know what I mean. I am not sure how to deal with that. I see so many people coming to realization of being who they are, or just the falling away of fear, through so many different pursuits or divine accidents.. who am I to promote just one way? Then again, please reach ALL spiritual seekers! smily

The second thing that bothers me about this community at this moment, is that it is all about money. I'm sorry to say that. I love you, and see where you are coming from and I don't blame you. Money has been an issue in my life and the lives around me, and even society at large, these days. And again, I just don't know how to deal with that either. It just think it dilutes the purity of your singular message. You've got double motives, the motive for personal survival, and the motive of the healing of humanity.

I dream of a world where all beings, just by grace of being alive, are being fed and housed. But that is just dreaming for the moment. How do we deal with the now? The world is in crisis. Personal lives are in crisis. Our relationships with money are being challenged and changed on many levels. How do we navigate through this crisis?

Back to this community. I wish you could gain a steady income from other avenues, so that this task is freed of the need to generate income, and can be exactly what it is, grow organically, in its own way, time and speed, without the agenda to help you survive.

I hope we can bring some intelligent discussion to this issue of money. I think it is central to our times. Maybe not as central to the Looking, but still smily. At least it is to me, so help me out by giving your views on the matter

A little background. I am without a job for 2.5 years now. Both recovering from a health disease and in the process of Recovery. My yearly income is about 13,000 euros, about 18,000 dollars. Because in my country, no matter how sick, old or dysfunctional you are, you always get a minimal allowance. I'm 34 by the way. I'm looking for ways to re-entering the working life, and slowly am. I want to live together with my girlfriend, and we are categorizing our options. Issues around money arise in this regard, but will resolve themselves in their own time.

With lots of love,

One more conversation

Hello Everybody!

I have just talked with an old friend. For a long time I have planed to tell him about what has happened to me since I looked at my self and the hole process around that. But it has been so hard to do it. I have had a big resistant to talk to him about what I am doing. My feeling has been; how can I ever talk to him (anybody) about what is happening to me and in this work, can he really understand, does he think I am crazy or something and so on and so on.

It was a little scary and strange to tell him about this project and my own experiences. But It went really good! He is really interested and I got the feeling that he actually tried to look at the feeling of himself while we talked in the phone. We are also planing to meet and talk more about it. This is so big for me because I want this to be natural for me to talk about, and for every person I talk with it feels less strange. And it also strengthen my own ability's to talk about this new possibility.

And this experience also tells me, once again, that what we are doing here works.

Good Luck to everyone out there who are trying to share your experiences. JUST DO IT!

Love,

Niklas

Grassroots blog

I read John's blog about getting involved with the grassroots movement with interest and have a response. I am relatively new to the looking, 2 years into it, and have experienced an incredible change in my outlook on life. I have a strong desire to spread this message and have told many people about it. I am sure that at least 6 or 7 of my friends tried the looking and probably many more tried it that I don't know about. I have personally witnessed an incredible transformation in a friend who did the looking, got out of an abusive relationship and radically changed her life. I also work with kids and encourage them to look at themselves. I also put Johns message, website, etc. out there on a spiritual discussion group where I post on almost daily and am sure some have responded to it, perhaps many more have that I don't know about.

However.....I have no interest in joining the grassroots discussion. Don't know why, it's just not my thing. I think it's a mistake to assume that just because we aren't part of the grassroots, we are not spreading the word and are simply looking at our own individual recovery at the expense of others. I know I am spreading the word and I sincerely hope many more are. I hope we all keep up the good work, connected to the grassroots effort or not, we are still connected...

Learning

Hi all!

Yesterday I listened to the podcast of the latest Grassroots meeting. It was a very interesting meeting and I really recommend that everyone listen to it.

John talked about the importance of paying close attention to what is going on in the forums and how our common understanding is developing. He said that, by doing just that, we educate ourselves and with that learning it comes a great satisfaction that serves both ourselves and the communication with others about the looking.

And when he said that it struck me that that is precisely what is happening to me now. For some time now I have been following everything that is going on here. I read every forum posting, listens to every podcast and I keep up with the latest understanding of the work that is going on here. And I have even moved my blog here. It seems like the more I learn, the more things clear up for me and the easier it gets to talk to other about this process (like every other learning process). It gives so much in return.

And another thing that struck me was that I, until yesterday, have had the feeling that I need something more than I already have to work with and spread this act. But now it is absolutely clear to me that I have everything that is needed. I have access to this community and the websites. Here I learn and develop and that effects my choices in my life. And I even think I am starting to see that my life context seems to change and "take shape" along with my understanding of this process.

It is here we learn and develop. So if you, like me, have spent a lot of time thinking of what to do to be helpful and how to work with this method I can really recommend to instead use that time to keep up with the development here.

Happy learning...

Niklas

Birth Trauma

Hi all!

I have got the suggestion from someone that identifying the birth trauma as a possible explanation for the origin of the fear of life can stand in the way of the actual message.

Has someone else heard something about this? Or is there someone here that sees this as a hindrance in the way that this work is presented?

This has never been a problem for me. Even though I think it is both logical and interesting, it is just a possible explanation. It is not necessary to believe in that. The fear of life though does not need to be believed in. It is obvious that most people live with a terrible relationship with their own lives. And I also think it is obvious by now that the problem is psychological and that looking inward heals the mind and adjusts the relationship to our own life.

But if the birth trauma as a possible explanation for the fear of life is a problem and a hindrance to some, I think we should talk about it.

All the best to everyone,

Niklas smily

Dear Kevin,

Thank you very much for your suggestions regarding the use of Twitter to spread the information about the looking.

Have you seen our Twitter accounts?

@Just_OneLook & @LookAtYourself;

We use some hash tags already, such as #fearoflife, #looking, #lookatyourself, #justonelook.

We love the idea of adding variations of #occupy on our tweets. We are preparing now an initial list of maybe 6 of them that we're going to start using right away on tweets @Just_OneLook.

We also like the idea of adding the link to www.justonelook.org to the tweets. I have already started doing that. https://bit.ly/soY5p5

We really appreciate your suggestions. If you have any more ideas regarding the use of social networks, please let us know.

Jenny, your words are inspiring to me. Your reasoning suggests that as community members we have the opportunity to support each other in a variety of ways. I see that John has created a new Conversations thread entitled "Practicalities." Let's expand this discussion!

Bill Corcoran

This may sound silly and very naive, but someone like Oprah could be just the ticket. I remember her 10-week webcast course with Eckhart Tolle a few years back. She's very interested in "spirituality," so maybe this would be just what she's been looking for. How to get the message to her?

SJWHA

Jenny,

I think it's crucial when discussing this with another that it is made very clear that you are not suggesting a self analysis. That seems to be where some people get tripped up. They look at their thoughts instead of beyond them.

Well said, Steve. Yes, people commonly mistake their personality traits, thoughts, mind, emotions, body, sensations, perceptions, etc, etc, as themselves. The evidence of that is everywhere, and it's an understandable mistake. We are brought up to believe in being all these "things," in "becoming" something, rather than the "attention" or "consciousness" that is aware of these experiences.

Perhaps, as you say, the Looking is more likely to spread as people become sane through Looking. This reminds me of what the Na'vi people in the movie Avatar would do - they would greet each other as a sign of respect with the words "I see you." I thought it meant they were seeing each other's essence, not just their physical aspect. The "god" in me sees the "god" in you. I see myself, in your eyes. I think this is something the Looking brings us to naturally recognize.

Namaste,

Jenny

The looking and therapy

Hello,

In my work as a breath therapist I guided people to become more aware of their breathing... the relaxed inspiration and exhale help to release emotions, relax tension in the body. For many this simple act of realizing they are breathing was already difficult and we want quick results, relief of the suffering., and there is a lot of fear.

As John says all these skills are much more effective now as I make the main focus the looking at the feeling of being you, as I become more let's say stabilized in feeling of me... this becomes easier to share and people feel less manipulated; so I definitely see this as a way to introduce the looking, plus the client is already open to this simple suggestion. Im not sure talking about the looking with family, friends etc. has been useful, since their interest in inward looking is not there and my old habits of spiritual therapist know it all simply turn them off. Ha!

A few years ago I did write to Oprah about John's work (around time with Ekhart Tolle) however I received no response. Again her emphasis seems to on improving on the life, but I think there could be an opening.

Maureen

How to pass on this simple suggestion...

Hi everybody,

It seems that this practical suggestion of looking at yourself might be very useful to Eckhart Tolle and others who have found themselves in some way free of the neurotic fear of life but without any specific practical instruction to give to the seekers they are trying to help. For those "lookers" that come in contact with the many earnest teachers and helpers in this realm (spiritual, psychological) who are out there, it couldn't hurt to point them towards this effective work via the "fear of life" essay or any of the other resources that John and Carla have built for us.

When I heard about David Parrish encountering this work I laughed to myself at what a great tool he had stumbled across. Imagine that. Something that works! Think of how quickly the idea of the bow and arrow might have spread through early human hunting culture when people saw how effective and practical a set of tools they were.

The tendency of some who found there way here (to the looking) early on might have been to discuss these things in a spiritual, philosophical or religious context (if at all). These discussions and related practices were the only tools we had to try to hunt down this apparent problem with life. By comparison the act of looking is like an invisible smart bomb next to the bows and arrows of the old methods. The effort is made to "launch" this hypothetical weapon and the feedback received has nothing to do with the imaginary target but rather with its absence.

To get back on track with the practicalities, this thing that we have all stumbled across will likely be appealing to anyone who hears of it regardless of their background. If I ran into Oprah or Eckhart on the street I would be as likely to tell them about this "looking" as I am to tell it to all the other people I meet on my path. I have seen amazing results in my relationship with my own life and heard some equally exciting reports from friends that I have shared this with.

The channels of discussion that have already been established by others such as Conscious.tv and Buddha at the Gas Pump etc. are great places to share this incredible tool. From my own correspondence with them I know they are interested in John's work. It appears they have a large and interested audience and some distribution on TV as well.

Maybe after we figure out how to get the basics (operating costs) paid for regularly with less of an emergency approach we could collect some funds to cover expenses for those of uss who are skilled at articulating the practical nature of this work so clearly, to meet with more people and do a little press. Word of a helpful thing has a way of getting around and I have never before found something so helpful as this looking.

I think about these practicalities often and I will be glad to share any ideas that come up. I too would like to see what happens if more people were to come in contact with this simple suggestion.

Love

David A

Supporting the Work

We are all advocates of the looking and wouldn't be here if we weren't. I am happy to have found this teaching. One of its "drawbacks" - if you can call it that (and I don't) - is the reduced drive toward fame, recognition and even prosperity. Not that those life themes become less important; just that everything else occurring in front of you has a new shine and has gained in importance. Consequently, we are less compelled to attain fame, recognition or prosperity, which means that we may no longer possess the zealousness of good proselytizers. That suggests a slower spread of popularity for the teaching than we might desire. It also suggests that the teaching won't become cultish or - god forbid - religious.

So, I'm okay with bubbling along. I rejoice in the communication technology that facilitates transmission of the teaching across the planet - so different than earlier word-of-mouth eras. Perhaps by us taking advantage of the technology (like writing to each other in the Forum), we are accomplishing what we no longer are compelled to accomplish.

A final thought about supporting the work. I suspect money is as much of a trigger for everyone as it has been for me. My suggestion is that you bring to the light of your consciousness whatever arises in the way of feelings and emotions - guilt, self-loathing, anxiety, anger, self-righteousness - as you make or fail to make any decison about supporting the work. The topic is just that - a topic - and an opportunity to bring your patterns and predispositons to light. They are as important as anything else and can be entertaining if you don't take them too seriously and make them into beliefs about yourself, only to be thrown out with all the other trash discovered in the looking.

Trimpi

I love that feeling or sense of abundance when it comes my way. Gratitude is always right on its heels. Sometimes overwhelm is around the corner, but less so these days. My brother equates money with energy and says that what goes out comes in. You can read that to mean that the more that goes out, the more that comes in. I don't know about that, but I do know my relationship with money has softened. Money triggers, true, but the amperage is mild so that the disturbance is nothing compared to what it used to be. Years ago I turned the handling of our finances over to my wife, and that kept me at a greater distance. That would no longer be as helpful today as it was then, thanks in large part to the looking. And it's not that I'm more financially secure now than then, and it's not that I've gotten clearer about it or more balanced or understanding or anything whatsoever to do with what I think or the ideas and concepts I've developed. The looking has worked across the board in diminishing the drive to do something about any situation or set of circumstances for the sake of survival or need to satisfy any of my neurotic themes. Instead, I do because I do, and that's kind of the end to it. I'm still interested in why I do it, but mostly as a matter of curiousity or habit.

Maureen, I salute you for your years of work with Osho. I salute all of us for the journeys through life we have undertaken. Trimpi

Reasons

Dear John and Community,

I have given at least a couple times in the past, but I haven't chosen to give much lately and these are the reasons why:

1) I'm not confident enough yet that John's prescription actually delivers on its promise. Which leads directly to the second reason, which is:

2) As John most nobly says himself, I feel that I would like to wait until I have certifiable positive results in my own life before I start fully endorsing this work. John himself said on one of his websites that he believes that if his message is true, and if people really do find their lives transformed, then people will be compelled to give of their own accord. Well, considering that I don't have enough money to be throwing it at whatever sounds good, I will take him up on that statement.

3) I (and probably most others involved with this work) do not have much to give. My guess is that most people who are wealthy and successful in life do not come to these types of self-help places. It's people with broken-down lives (like me) who come here, and people with broken-down lives aren't doing well enough financially to donate much.

Nevertheless, most people out there make a lot more than I do, and I have already given, despite my skepticism. If you definitely feel that you have benefited in some way from John's message, I think you should give something back. Frankly, my life is still in the dumps so I am understandably standoffish, but if you're doing well because of this Looking, you should give.

Even if the benefits you've received haven't been permanent, if you truly got some significant joy or insight or positive feeling out of this, then I think it's fair to pay that source back justly. We pay to get pranic healings and goddess seminars and psychiatry sessions and energy crystals and pricey nutritional products etc., so we can at least give back for the logical and earnest work that John is promoting. That's only fair.

I really want for this forum and John's websites to continue running. If nothing else, it's encouraging and profoundly insightful.

Short-time strategy to support the work

As far as I can see, there's a short-term and a long-term strategy needed. The long-term strategy is already set: getting enough people sane, so that the work can sustain itself by donations alone. Good enough. The time until this is the case however can be shortened by also pointing out the long-term positive effects the Looking has on health and relationships. Which body-mind is more likely to be healthy and in a loving relationship? A body-mind deeply afflicted by the fear of life/wound of alienation or one that isn't? There you go.

What's still missing is a short-term strategy, a cash-cow, if you will. I'd suggest cooperating with successful online businesses in a way that donations to Just One Look come with orders to them. The antivirus company I'm using has been doing that for years. For every $15 annual antivirus fee they also charge a $5 donation to the foundation they're supporting ("help us make the offline world safer too"), so in the end one has to pay $20 per service renewal. Thereby, we can kill two birds with one stone: We get enough donations to support the work and the Just One Look experiment, preferably with recurring orders as happens with consumable goods, hosting fees and the like, and we make the work more known and available to those folks who couldn't yet be bothered to seek an internal solution to their problems, which is practically everyone. And what could be a better moment to support a worthy cause than the moment you have taken out your credit card anyway?

I hope this is of use in the process of finding a short-term solution.

Simple Practice to Spread the Message of the Looking

I feel confident that in this day and age a good number of people participating on this forum are users of social media sites.

Facebook, Twitter, Google+, MySpace, etc.

If you are then you have undoubtedly encountered things like - Follow Friday, News Tuesday, Share Sunday....

Well, what about OneLook Wednesday? Or, Sherman Saturday? ;)

Once per week, on a day of your choosing (or if you're like me, chaotically on a random day each week), post about the looking. It does not have to be long, or pushy, just a mention that JustOneLook.Org is out there, and that you have benefited from the looking.

If everyone here who has actually benefited from the looking were to do that once a week, we would reach the goal of 700 million. Word of mouth is still the greatest form of advertising out there. Friends trust what friends recommend.

Do your friends a favor, talk about the looking.

Just an idea. smily

Money

What wonderful comments here. I think it is very useful to consider how the context of fear has dictated our relationship with money. I have been impressed in my conversations with John and Carla how although they have lived very close to "bust", and continue to be not far from it, they have never appeared "afraid" in the face of this. Concerned, yes, but not fearful. For me two places that I find that the transition given by the looking shows up is in the areas of sex and money; two areas of human experience that I think we are particularly crazy. These days I find that my relationship with money is "respectful", but not fearful, i.e. I am clear that it is an important aspect of functioning in the world, and a necessary element of the creative process, and I am also clear that it exist in "abundance" vs. the perception of it given by fear; that it is "scarce". There are still neurotic moments in this area of life for me as there are with sex, but they are moments, they used to be not only always there, but appeared to be "true". It is so useful to notice the difference and notice that it is the absence of the fear of life, an aspect of which is the fear of not having enough, that has diminished. Fulfillment is present when the fear diminishes.

Thank you for being here.

David

The current need

david 1

Hi everybody,

It seems that this practical suggestion of looking at yourself might be very useful to Eckhart Tolle and others who have found themselves in some way free of the neurotic fear of life but without any specific practical instruction to give to the seekers they are trying to help. For those "lookers" that come in contact with the many earnest teachers and helpers in this realm (spiritual, psychological) who are out there, it couldn't hurt to point them towards this effective work via the "fear of life" essay or any of the other resources that John and Carla have built for us.

When I heard about David Parrish encountering this work I laughed to myself at what a great tool he had stumbled across. Imagine that. Something that works! Think of how quickly the idea of the bow and arrow might have spread through early human hunting culture when people saw how effective and practical a set of tools they were.

The tendency of some who found there way here (to the looking) early on might have been to discuss these things in a spiritual, philosophical or religious context (if at all). These discussions and related practices were the only tools we had to try to hunt down this apparent problem with life. By comparison the act of looking is like an invisible smart bomb next to the bows and arrows of the old methods. The effort is made to "launch" this hypothetical weapon and the feedback received has nothing to do with the imaginary target but rather with its absence.

To get back on track with the practicalities, this thing that we have all stumbled across will likely be appealing to anyone who hears of it regardless of their background. If I ran into Oprah or Eckhart on the street I would be as likely to tell them about this "looking" as I am to tell it to all the other people I meet on my path. I have seen amazing results in my relationship with my own life and heard some equally exciting reports from friends that I have shared this with.

The channels of discussion that have already been established by others such as Conscious.tv and Buddha at the Gas Pump etc. are great places to share this incredible tool. I wonder if David Parrish would be available to travel to England sometime to do an interview with Conscious TV. From my own correspondence with them I know they are interested in John's work. It appears they have a large and interested audience and some distribution on TV as well.

Maybe after we figure out how to get the basics (operating costs) paid for regularly with less of an emergency approach we could collect some funds to cover expenses for David Parrish, or any others who are skilled at articulating the practical nature of this work so clearly, to meet with more people and do a little press. Word of a helpful thing has a way of getting around and I have never before found something so helpful as this looking.

I think about these practicalities often and I will be glad to share any ideas that come up. I too would like to see what happens if more people were to come in contact with this simple suggestion.

Love

David 1

Hello David 1,

Since you mentioned me in your post I thought I would post a response with some ideas and suggestions in reference to the practicalities we are currently faced with as an evolving organization.

We are (the organizing group for this work) working consistently on what is wanted and needed to move forward with the Just One Look Project (the communication of this suggestion to look to the world). At some point in the not too distant future there will be a jump forward in terms of the number of people in this community out of our efforts to get more exposure via the internet and other means. When we get to this point the number of people in the community will be sufficient to provide financial support for us to continue to evolve toward the organization required to reach our goal of 700 million people. Until that time the existing community is the primary source of financial support. We are the start up community for this work to be brought to the world. The difference will be that people won't just be inspired by this as is the case with so many teachings and practices, people will be transformed, go sane, actually experience what they have heard is possible us as human beings. This is what will cause this work to become a revolution in human consciousness.

Until we make the next leap forward and gain momentum it is critical that we the community express our ownership of this work. It is not John's work, or Carla's work, or my work, it is "our work". Once you have done the looking and started to realize the results and efficacy of this method it is "natural" to recognize that the bills that need to be paid are "our" bills.

John is very adamant about this work being free and available to anyone who hears of it and I agree that this work, this method belongs to humankind as a birthright. Having said that I request that anyone who reads this generate a conversation for ownership of this work. The most practical and useful way to support this work is to make an automatic monthly donation. If each of us who knows the power and value of this work simply donated a dollar a day the on going financial concerns would come to an end.

Thank you for your participation in this community.

Love

Davidsmily

Our Work

David 1

Since you mentioned me in your post I thought I would post a response with some ideas and suggestions in reference to the practicalities we are currently faced with as an evolving organization.

We are (the organizing group for this work) working consistently on what is wanted and needed to move forward with the Just One Look Project (the communication of this suggestion to look to the world). At some point in the not too distant future there will be a jump forward in terms of the number of people in this community out of our efforts to get more exposure via the internet and other means. When we get to this point the number of people in the community will be sufficient to provide financial support for us to continue to evolve toward the organization required to reach our goal of 700 million people. Until that time the existing community is the primary source of financial support. We are the start up community for this work to be brought to the world. The difference will be that people won't just be inspired by this as is the case with so many teachings and practices, people will be transformed, go sane, actually experience what they have heard is possible us as human beings. This is what will cause this work to become a revolution in human consciousness.

Until we make the next leap forward and gain momentum it is critical that we the community express our ownership of this work. It is not John's work, or Carla's work, or my work, it is "our work". Once you have done the looking and started to realize the results and efficacy of this method it is "natural" to recognize that the bills that need to be paid are "our" bills.

John is very adamant about this work being free and available to anyone who hears of it and I agree that this work, this method belongs to humankind as a birthright. Having said that I request that anyone who reads this generate a conversation for ownership of this work. The most practical and useful way to support this work is to make an automatic monthly donation. If each of us who knows the power and value of this work simply donated a dollar a day the on going financial concerns would come to an end.

Thank you for your participation in this community.

Love

Davidsmily

Hello David,

Thanks for the reminder that this is "our work" and of the practical costs involved. I have spent some recent days assessing my monthly expenses and I agree that it is well worth adding a dollar a day for Just One Look to the the list. Of all the projects that I find myself working on this is the most compelling. I am amazed every time I am able to communicate clearly to someone the simple suggestion we are making.

I'm glad to be here participating and glad to help with the expenses.

I very much appreciate the videos that you have posted on your You Tube channel.

Love,

David 1 smily

Dear Antony,

All our translations are done by volunteer translators. We will be delighted to be able to add Spanish translations to our website.

Please go to our website for instructions: https://www.justonelook.org/volunteer.php

Thank you very much!

Carla

Kevin Bacon

First off, thank you David P for your explanation of the current state of affairs, that "this is it, for now" and that only the people actively involved right now will decide where this will go. But I trust that this movement is not something which will stagnate or die out over time. More people will get involved, better ways and words to communicate the suggestion to look will grow, and at one point it WILL change gear.

For my personal ideas about practicalities, I find it important to keep in mind that what John suggests is an answer to a question only very very very very few people have. In an abstract global view, it is an answer to humanity's crazy self destruction, but on a personal level, only a very small part of humanity has the personal context and the need to understand its value, and those people (us) actually find themselves at home in the suggestion in a very easy and natural way. Like I said to Bill C. when we first met, I find it very important to get the suggestion to the people that actually need it right now, but who don't know it exists. My not yet very thorough appraisal of the people involved right now makes me think most of them have a background of sometimes decades of wandering in the spiritual desert, and I think in the short term, we need to make it as easy as possible for those of us still wandering in that desert - those are the people that value the suggestion, as well as the practical needs required to bring it to even more people, so that step by step people will see the use of this bow and arrow, and people will start to understand the value of the looking, like they had to learn the value of the understanding that the earth isn't flat. But that's just another abstract look on the matter.

Right now, and in my opinion, the most practical way to do this is to raise the chances for those people to just know John exists - statistically, mathematically speaking. For instance, there still is no Wikipedia entry about John. Maybe this has a reason, but the way Wikipedia and the internet works, which is through cross referencing, it would raise the chance for many who are ready for the suggestion, to find John and the looking. This idea is based on the Kevin Bacon/six degrees of separation theory, and I think it applies to John just as well, and one of our duties (!) is to facilitate or create the interpersonal links that will bring people to look.

Just my 2 euro cent!

Wouter

FluoSmurf

Right now, and in my opinion, the most practical way to do this is to raise the chances for those people to just know John exists - statistically, mathematically speaking. For instance, there still is no Wikipedia entry about John. Maybe this has a reason, but the way Wikipedia and the internet works, which is through cross referencing, it would raise the chance for many who are ready for the suggestion, to find John and the looking. This idea is based on the Kevin Bacon/six degrees of separation theory, and I think it applies to John just as well, and one of our duties (!) is to facilitate or create the interpersonal links that will bring people to look.

Dear Wouter,

There are articles being written and published online and in print all over the world about John, and people actually setting up websites that refer people to the work we're doing here. If you google John Sherman, you'll find a lot of them.

As to Wikipedia, I agree with you that an entry about John should be there already.

In 2009, David Bergwall from Uppsala, Sweden, made an entry about John. Unfortunately, it was removed by Wikipedia moderators. Not really sure why that happened.

So, we're still waiting to see someone who will take on the job of doing the research and writing a good piece about John for Wikipedia. We will be more than happy to review the article and contribute as much as we can to make it complete and accurate.

Wikipedia rules don't allow us do do it ourselves. It must be done by someone else and it must not sound like a promotional piece.

Carla

Wikipedia

Carla Sherman

So, we're still waiting to see someone who will take on the job of doing the research and writing a good piece about John for Wikipedia. We will be more than happy to review the article and contribute as much as we can to make it complete and accurate.

Wikipedia rules don't allow us do do it ourselves. It must be done by someone else and it must not sound like a promotional piece.

Hi Carla,

Bill C. already sent me some links to external websites that feature some of John's writings and link to the site. I'm actually going to try and contact people in Belgium and the Netherlands that are active in or lead spiritual and other support communities, to make them aware of what we do here. I invite anyone that reads this to do the same.

As for the Wikipedia page, I will read the entry, see what the Wiki rules state so I can make changes if needed, and search the web for third party/objective sources, or whatever is needed to make sure the page is kept online. Again, if anyone reads this who can help me provide any of this information, all help is very welcome!

Wouter

A few links

FluoSmurf

...third party/objective sources, or whatever is needed to make sure the page is kept online. Again, if anyone reads this who can help me provide any of this information, all help is very welcome!

Wouter,

1) I have the link to the Seattle Times / Alex Fryer article about John as it appears archived on the Seattle Times website. This might be a good "third party/objective source," and it might be better to link directly to the newspaper's site. Here's the link: https://archive.seattletimes.com/archive/?date=19990624&slug=2968311

If the link above doesn't make it, you can easily find it by googling for "The Evolution Of A Revolutionary an article by Alex Fryer."

2) The Randall Fitzgerald article titled "Escape From The Prison of Mind" is another obvious source, but so far as I can tell, it doesn't exist online except on John's blog under "Articles." It can be referenced as an offline source: "Fitzgerald, Randall (2005). Escape From The Prison of Mind. Phenomena Magazine." - something like that.

3) This probably is less useful, but in any case: There is a Wikipedia article titled "FBI's Ten Most Wanted Fugitives during the 1970s," which lists John Sherman, his sequence number (#367), and the date John made it on the list. That article cites and links to the original FBI document, which is archived online. So, perhaps this is something else to add to the list of "third party references."

I might want to help a bit more with this endeavor, including the writing/editing, if you'd like help. I'm not especially qualified, but I'm well versed in John's story and the evolution of the discourse/conversation. The David Bergwall entry is excellent but the references to John suggesting "Ramana's self-inquiry" are a little out of date.

It might be easier for us to communicate by email, which is accessible through my profile.

Best,

Eugene

Email address

Email address

Eugene

It might be easier for us to communicate by email, which is accessible through my profile.

Best,

Eugene

Hello Eugene,

Thank you for that info, the link to the Seattle Times was one of those things I needed to start writing, saves me some googling time! I tried looking for your email on your profile, but couldn't find it for the life of me. I've changed my profile settings so you should be able to email me directly now. Like you suggested, I would appreciate the help on describing John's "teaching" in Wikipedia-safe but accurate wordings.

Hope to hear from you soon!

Wouter

Another book?

Hi John (and Carla)

Just following on from the topic of your book "Look At Yourself", I was wondering if there was any interest in printing another book with perhaps the transcripts of a more recent Retreat for example. I'm the sort of person who likes reading, and really got a lot from the 2007 transcripts in "Look At Yourself". I've noticed some of the terminology and focus has changed a bit (.e.g. Use of the word "inquiry" in 2007, but rarely now), and feel there could be value in printing another more recent retreat. Of course there may be no interest in this, but it's just an idea I feel could be worth considering.. smily

KR,

Dean

New E-Book

deanp

Hi John (and Carla)

Just following on from the topic of your book "Look At Yourself", I was wondering if there was any interest in printing another book with perhaps the transcripts of a more recent Retreat for example. I'm the sort of person who likes reading, and really got a lot from the 2007 transcripts in "Look At Yourself". I've noticed some of the terminology and focus has changed a bit (.e.g. Use of the word "inquiry" in 2007, but rarely now), and feel there could be value in printing another more recent retreat. Of course there may be no interest in this, but it's just an idea I feel could be worth considering. smily

Dean

John and Carla,

If you have a retreat in mind; and if someone else would volunteer to transcribe it; I am available to edit it.

Lera

deanp

Hi John (and Carla)

Just following on from the topic of your book "Look At Yourself", I was wondering if there was any interest in printing another book with perhaps the transcripts of a more recent Retreat for example. I'm the sort of person who likes reading, and really got a lot from the 2007 transcripts in "Look At Yourself". I've noticed some of the terminology and focus has changed a bit (.e.g. Use of the word "inquiry" in 2007, but rarely now), and feel there could be value in printing another more recent retreat. Of course there may be no interest in this, but it's just an idea I feel could be worth considering.. smily

Dean.

Dear Dean,

We are really happy you enjoyed the book. I agree that reading a book is a completely different experience, so we do our best to have that option available. We are actually working on a new book based on the transcriptions of the 2010 and 2011 retreats, plus some other material. We are hoping to have it ready to be published (ebook and paperback) before the end of the year.

Thanks for your interest!

Love,

Carla

lerajane

John and Carla,

If you have a retreat in mind; and if someone else would volunteer to transcribe it; I am available to edit it.

Lera

Dear Lera Jane,

We are working on a new book based on the transcriptions of the 2010 and 2011 retreats, plus some other material.

We are hoping to have it ready to be published (ebook and paperback) by the end of the year.

I'll let you know when we have a first draft ready. We will be delighted to have your comments and suggestions.

Thanks for offering your help!

Carla

Carla Sherman

Dear Dean,

We are really happy you enjoyed the book. I agree that reading a book is a completely different experience, so we do our best to have that option available. We are actually working on a new book based on the transcriptions of the 2010 and 2011 retreats, plus some other material. We are hoping to have it ready to be published (ebook and paperback) before the end of the year.

Thanks for your interest!

Love,

Carla

Thanks Carla (& John), that's wonderful news! I really enjoy the podcasts, though I guess some people like myself enjoy sitting down and pondering over written words also, much like a meditation.. which makes paper books a real treat smily

Thanks for keeping us updated.

Best regards,

Dean

Dear Madego,

John did another interview with Richard Miller for nevernothere.com more recently.

You can watch it here:

December 8, 2011 Interview.

Other forums

Hi. This is my maiden post here. smily

A friend and I founded a discussion community over 8 years ago, and there are a couple of simple things that can help with the funding. Firstly, up front and center on the forum's homepage you should have a paypal button for donations. It really does help to support the costs of the forum. You might post when John and Carla's birthdays are, and suggest a small donation to honor that.

Also I'm willing to guess that many of your members belong to other forums that discuss spiritual/awakening stuff, such as mine. I am happy to report that John's work is mentioned fairly regularly, and I see a few familiar names here at this forum. Just today a member at the forum asked for an "Idiots Guide" to enlightenment, and I was pleased to point him to Just One Look.

Dear Heidi,

Thank you very much for the suggestion to add a PayPal Donate button to the forums. As you can see, we just added it. Good idea!

Love,

Carla

Spreading the word

Dear John, Carla and all fellow 'lookers'

I was thinking about how to spread the word about the Just One Look Campaign. The other day I saw the website of the Thrive Movement/ www.thrivemovement.com/ One of the things they offer is a place called "Take Action" where people can get to know about different types of actions that aim for a critical mass. What about connecting with them, introducing The Looking and see if "Just One Look" could be one of the actions to get to know through that site?

It seems they are going big, reaching a lot of people and why not be part of that co-creation of spreading the word?

Lots of love,

Helene

Honesty

gerrit

Dear John and Community,

I have given at least a couple times in the past, but I haven't chosen to give much lately and these are the reasons why:

1) I'm not confident enough yet that John's prescription actually delivers on its promise. Which leads directly to the second reason, which is:

2) As John most nobly says himself, I feel that I would like to wait until I have certifiable positive results in my own life before I start fully endorsing this work. John himself said on one of his websites that he believes that if his message is true, and if people really do find their lives transformed, then people will be compelled to give of their own accord. Well, considering that I don't have enough money to be throwing it at whatever sounds good, I will take him up on that statement.

3) I (and probably most others involved with this work) do not have much to give. My guess is that most people who are wealthy and successful in life do not come to these types of self-help places. It's people with broken-down lives (like me) who come here, and people with broken-down lives aren't doing well enough financially to donate much.

Nevertheless, most people out there make a lot more than I do, and I have already given, despite my skepticism. If you definitely feel that you have benefited in some way from John's message, I think you should give something back. Frankly, my life is still in the dumps so I am understandably standoffish, but if you're doing well because of this Looking, you should give.

Even if the benefits you've received haven't been permanent, if you truly got some significant joy or insight or positive feeling out of this, then I think it's fair to pay that source back justly. We pay to get pranic healings and goddess seminars and psychiatry sessions and energy crystals and pricey nutritional products etc., so we can at least give back for the logical and earnest work that John is promoting. That's only fair.

I really want for this forum and John's websites to continue running. If nothing else, it's encouraging and profoundly insightful.

Thank you so much Gerrit for your honesty.

Mike

Movies

I don't think this is a very practical suggestion, but I can see how John's life story could easily be turned into a full feature Hollywood movie which would draw attention to the work. Detonations of buildings (nice special effects), an underground group of revolutionaries, gun fights with law enforcement, prison, escape, most wanted list, "enlightenment" experience... Then stumbling into a life changing discovery. It's all there for an exciting story. Any screenwriters out there?

Or a documentary movie which can be made with smaller budget.

Seppo

Metro

I read a freely distributed paper called Metro daily on my way to work, and there is a section where readers can send text messages to discuss any topic. Is it the case in other countries, too? It's an international paper coming out all over the world and must have millions of readers every morning. I'm wondering if instructions to look can be texted there on a regular basis? I suppose it doesn't cost much.

Seppo

Categories

One of the things I've been thinking about is to how to categorize inward looking if you want to talk about it to people. John has been pointing out that seeing it as another version of spiritual teaching is not beneficial and the aim is to put it as clearly as possible in simple words and then spread it as widely as possible. Or do we aim to frame it differently for different target groups?

It seems to me that people put everything they hear into one category or another according to their idiosyncrasies. So can it be any or all those categories at once? If I talk to a "spiritual" person I may talk about it as another version of self inquiry, and get him or her looking. Or if I talk to someone who is clinically depressed I frame it as self-help or therapy. Or I can just ask someone if they've ever wondered what's the feeling of me-ness behind their daily life and how it's actually there all the time. The thing is that to do it just out of curiosity doesn't attract many, I guess. I talked about this with a friend and what came out was that seeing it as the culmination of all the millennia of search for an answer for suffering is counterproductive. It sounds too unbelievable even if it actually is just that. And too exclusive. It seems that people want to believe in many paths to freedom. So my tentative favorites are therapy and self-help approaches as they are unassuming and don't have any larger-than-life associations. I would also like to see a study of it's efficacy as a therapeutic measure in treating depression or anxiety, as was proposed in some other thread. Scientific credibility would be excellent in spreading the message. It will take a long time to establish, though.

Also, as it seems that the results of looking might take years to show up in your life and convince you, that spreading by word of mouth can be slow. I got engaged with this more than a year ago and it's only now that I'm tentatively convinced and recommend it to people from my experience. From this I feel it will take decades or even more to spread this with the results it brings. Maybe I'm wrong. Just concerned.

Seppo

Documentary

I think the idea of a documentary is brilliant. John's personal history, the emergence of the act, the community, and the way in which the act bumps up against our traditional assumptions around the cause and cure of human suffering is fascinating.

Paul

Hi Lera

It's an interesting question.

I have a website where I've been writing for a few years so that's a natural outlet for me to talk about this. I go to a forum; it's a spiritual forum so now I feel like an alien there, but I have been going there for a while so I talk about the fear and looking there. And in person, I talk about it only when asked, only when conversation turns to this kind of thing, which seems to be happening more and more.

I have trouble with expressing it. It's a skill I think. I'm learning to say less. Just gently putting forth the suggestion of the context of fear, and the looking.

In my practice as a lawyer, I'm almost always drawn into problem solving. A common expression I use goes something like, "Well, you're here aren't you?" seeking to bring the person here, out of their head (or misery). That's as far as it goes with trying to educate others about the tremendous value I have found with John's teaching. My guess is that more people will turn inward instead of looking for answers outside themselves, and that it's just a matter of time before I will be able to effectively communicate with like-minded people in my relatively remote and sheltered area (northeastern North Carolina). It may be that I will get as aggressive as Lera Jane (and I mean that in a kind way), but for now I'm content in basking in what I see as a great secret.

trimpi

I have been thinking of this, lerajane.

For some people I meet as a health worker, it works to pose it as a therapeutic measure. For giving relief when things are not so great. it does help they say. Atleast it gets them looking. I dont promise them that the bad feeling will go away at the moment, but i say instead of focusing on the bad feeling maybe you can look at what never changes, which is you.

For others who seem to be miserable, but wont accept that they are, a good question to ask is are you completely satisfied with your life, are you truly contented with it? If not, then this looking can help.

Because it seems that's what the looking gives you in the end. It doesn't remove problems or challenges or all stupidities even. It just removes the thing that makes all those unsatisfying.

If the looking with intent once is truly effective, then ofcourse they will look again. So i dont say they MUST look everyday, i say, whenever it strikes you, look! I dont know if that really works for everyone. A couple of my friends did this but apparently they havent found themselves doing it again. So...

I also started to teach the 7-10 yr old children in my locality to do the looking. They seem to find it much easier than adults. And they report to me, that they have been looking from time to time. It cant do any harm, so i pose it to them as an experiment that they can do whenever it occurs to them, especially in times they dont feel ok. They like the idea.

People already engaged in spiritual practice, dont seem to much like this technique. They say it is too simple! smily

Attention

It has been my experience that the development of constant aware attention is of great use in forwarding your intent to share about looking at yourself. I have found that the intention to be attentive to my life so that I notice thoughts as much as possible, and I notice life as it appears has me consistently attuned to my experience in such a way that opportunities to bring the idea of looking at yourself show up naturally, and that I simply mention the idea, especially when people around me are complaining about their life, which is common... or when people are in the middle of some kind of suffering. I have found that getting into elaboration about it is not useful, but rather to simply slip them the justonelook.org website on a card or write it down and slip it to them and say something like... you might consider giving this a try, it worked for me. The less said the better. This kind of leaves people curious and if they are looking for solutions in their life (who isn't) they may follow up.

One thing is certain that which you constantly attend to is energized and shows up in your field of experience consistently.

Love

Davidsmily

I have also found through many experiences talking at length with people about looking at yourself that "the less said the better".

There have been exceptions where ongoing conversations with friends have eventually resulted in someone trying the looking for themselves but I can see that generally casual conversations go in the circles we are accustomed to.

I agree with David P that leaving people feeling curious seems to be an effective way to present this. I have designed myself a little half page brochure which has a very simply worded description of looking at yourself presented in a graphically interesting way. Even when I have presented it to friends to get some feedback on the design they often ask "can I keep this?"

David

The Stray Cat

lerajane

I feel shy in bringing it up. I have some misguided idea that I am saying, "I know what you need." and it will be discounted as another gimmick before they even try it.

Hi all,

I don't find explaining the looking to be very hard. When you talk to someone, they're there, even if it's over the phone or some kind of instant messaging. The way I explain it is very similar to how John explains it, and I also use the childhood memory exercise a lot which I find very helpful in getting someone's attention to their selves fast and without clutter. The hardest part for me is to get the idea across that one the one hand you have life which can be overwhelmingly complex and contradictory and painful and enjoyable and messy, and on the other hand there's this 'little exercise' that will make it all get better all by itself, as long as you try it. I've been trying to figure out how to bridge that gap ever since I learned of the looking, and sometimes the transition happens very smoothly, at other times there's great resistance in making the leap from worldly and/or emotional mayhem to just look. But if it's smooth, I've been able to make some people look at themselves, the common factor being the right mood which seems to be 'being fed up with life'. You can't force feed this apparently - I've had long discussions about it which led nowhere in the short term (maybe they did dislodge something that might manifest later on?), and I've been shut down immediately as well, where the conversation just flows away from it on its own terms, either because the idea has nothing to latch on to, or because it's defying the importance of the problem someone has. Kind of like trying to pet a stray cat - that's only going to happen if the cat will allow it.

Hope this makes sense.

Wouter

How did you do it?

What a wealth of suggestions. Thank all of you for responding. (Let's keep this open and respond as other ideas and suggestions come up.)

I found these ideas particularly helpful because I can imagine myself using or saying these at the appropriate moment:

Karmarider: The idea of less is more.

Trimpi: Well, you're here, aren't you?

Aabha: Instead of focusing on the bad feelings, maybe you can look at what never changes, which is you.' and 'Are you completely satisfied with your life' Are you truly contented with it' If not, then this looking can help.' (I imagine talking to my 11 year old niece and explaining the 'experiment.' for when she doesn't feel ok.)

Dparrish: You might consider giving this a try; it worked for me. Plus aware attention, developing curiosity and giving a card.

David A: Having a half page brochure to share. (David, would you feel comfortable sharing your description with us?)

Wouter: A reminder to focus on the giving of the suggestion; not on the reception of it. Kind of like trying to pet a stray cat - that's only going to happen if the cat will allow it.

A simple description

Hi Lera

Here is the text I used on my half page flyer design:

Try to look at you.

Notice that you can move your attention from one thing to another.

From an object in front of you to a thought, to a sensation in your body and so on.

Now try to move your attention to you.

Just you.

Not the thoughts and sensations etc.

Just you.

The experience you call "me".

Try it.

It's simple.

See what happens.

Try as often as it occurs to you.

I would be interested to hear any feedback from the group and suggestions about the wording if you have any. I will be glad to email a copy of my flyer to anyone interested. Leave me a private message and I'll send it.

The flyer also features an "unofficial" logo that I have been working on. (I hope to create a version to match the official brand soon) I'd be interested to hear any comments from other lookers about the image as well. Visual images just like speech can also be preloaded with meanings and understandings and I have really enjoyed the challenge of trying to create an icon which ignites curiosity and suggests the act of looking in some way.

I'm also collecting a list of intriguing comments or phrases from the discussions here and in the online meetings that might be used as copy on a t-shirt, billboard, flyer etc.

Here's an example. "AN UNPRECEDENTED DISCOVERY OF A TOOL THAT A HUMAN BEING CAN USE TO RID THEMSELVES OF THE UNDERLYING CAUSE OF ALL PSYCHOLOGICAL SUFFERING." Not sure where that came from but it's in my notes.

It's wonderful to participate in this experiment.

Love

David

Welcome Niklas,

There are a number of people in Scandinavia are actively involved in the looking, and in the effort to bring this news to the world. We hear regularly from people in Norway, Sweden, Denmark and Finland, and there are a number of translations on justonelook.org in Dutch, Swedish and Norwegian. Just look for Translations on the left side menu toward the bottom. The 'norse' page also has links to a recent article in the magazine Magasinet Visjon.

Your posting here will no doubt bring other replies from friends in Scandinavia.

It is very good to see you here.

love,

John

david 1

Hello everybody,

I have started this conversation over on the HipChat Grassroots page (Sign in to HipChat and click on the Grassroots tab at the top ) but I thought it would be useful to leave a message here as well.

I'd like to start a list of possible attention getting or curiosity instilling phrases that have come up in discussions about experiences with life after the looking. This is a creative brainstorming exercise done with the hope of finding useful content for future advertising materials.

An example inspired by today's grassroots online meeting is "Nothing's Missing in Your Life"

When we attempt to make this suggestion to the world at large, not just to the most avid seekers and usual supects, we can try to generate curiosity by using phrases that seem curiously uncommon among the standard pervasive media messages which are generally playing on ideas of lacking and wanting.

Please brainstorm freely. With this exercise it helps to throw every idea on the table and then sift through them and see which ones stand out as the strongest.

Here are a few more ideas to get things started:

"Understanding is entirely optional. It produces Nothing."

"An unprecedented discovery of a tool that a human being can use to rid themselves of the underlying cause of all psychological suffering."

If we post ideas at the HipChat Grassroots page we will be able to carry on a more fluid conversation without having to wait for posts to be approved. If you are not signed up to participate in the Grassroots online meetings and HipChat but you wish to be please contact carlasherman@justonelook.org

Of course it is equally helpful if you leave your ideas and comments in this thread.

Thanks,

David A

Hi David,

I met you on grassroots conversation. This is my first time here so as I am learning to find out how it works, I hope you get this message.

I am sketching the way I see the advertising/marketing for John... with a logo idea which is connected with a script... so the idea about 'nothing' is the one I play with... perhaps tomorrow i could send the sketch and open the table...If I well understood you are a film maker...or cartoon video creator ?

Thanks,

Julia

Why donate

If the looking is so simple, then that which is "seen" in the looking is so obvious, it does not need more than one look. This is the only thing that needs to be said...and looked at. This is why I donate.

Thank you for looking, John and Carla and everyone else.

Good ideas to go to regular channels, maybe even Eckhart Tolle TV ;-)

And speak at conferences such as Science and Non-duality (SAND) and other such meetings.

Good luck!

Niklas,

I too find it easier to talk to people about the looking. I have talked to many of my friends and I know for sure that a handful have tried the looking... it has been very interesting to watch the results! As I get clearer and more confident about what is going on with me, I find it easier to talk to others about it... early on when I talked about the looking, I threw in a huge caveat, "Hey, I'm not sure this works, you know the changes may have been due to something else", etc.

I no longer need to add the caveat. I know what changed me and who I am. This has made my communication more direct and clear and simple. It's all so plain and simple. I also believe that others pick up on the reality and honesty of the changes in us and this is probably at the intuitive level. We are different and that comes across somehow. Especially to people we are close to. I remember the evangelical Christian adage: Let you life be an example. Ironically, I have never been able to do this until the looking.

Jackx,

I recognize this very well. It is getting easier and easier to talk about. And I have noticed that talking about it, is the best way to get better in talking about it. The same process as in every learning. It has helped my process of recovery very much since I threw my self out in conversation about this work. For a long time I sat and waited for things to clear up, and the hole thing of looking at yourself, recovery and this project seamed pretty strange and hard to link to my self and my life. A gut feeling, that this act and this work was offering something really powerful, kept me here. And the real breakthrough in my recovery came when I stared to talk. Talking threw postings in this forum. Talking with friends. It made the process more real and about me and my life. It was not just some new interest that I had. This is actually about me and my life. Nothing more nothing less.

And as you said about that we effect the ones we are closed to. That is also my experience. It seams like we don't speak from the fear based context us much as before. And other people can feel that, as you said. I often find myself using sentences as: "that is nothing to be afraid about, it is not dangerous, right". And if we don't speak from the fear, it is almost as a release for others. Actually I think it is much humor in this. Maybe tragicomic but anyway. I often get a picture that the neurotic fear is like a little scared child. The scared child, like the fear wants to check everything and has to be guided threw "dangerous" situations. "It is ok, it is not dangerous, you can go and check it out, it wont hurt you" smily. I use to talk to a friend, that also is saying goodbye to the neurotic fear and we love this image of our neurotic fear as a scared child.

Conversation is priceless. I even feel stronger and more self reliant after every posting. Thank you Jackx for engaging in conversation about this wonderful work we are doing together.

As you said. Now our life's is our example.

Niklas

Deeply grateful...

John and Carla,

I am so very grateful for the work that you have done and are doing.

I first discovered you about five years ago during a very difficult time of financial hardship due to the crash of '08 and its impact on our livelihood in the new home construction industry. Beyond... and far before that... I had been like so very many of the people who found your simple instruction after a lifetime of "spiritual" searching and uncounted explorations. I've described elsewhere in the forum a little more of the anxiety and panic I dealt with intermittently for many years.

As you say so often, it is very difficult to describe the results of our looking...it simply is not, for me, fireworks, unmitigated elation, liberation from all pain or other hardship, or any other such specific "reward" that I and others have for so long falsely identified as some sort of "salvation" or escape from the life we've been given.

It is for me now so much more than any of that in a subtle but more recognizable way, a deeper inner resonance with, acceptance of, and, for lack of a better word, a sort of unspeakable, sweet thrumming along with whatever life brings my way...like the deep inner hum of high voltage transmission lines. (And even as I say it, I feel a little fear at what life may yet throw at me...but that fear has shrunk to something so little, so actually insignificant, an annoying gnat that once recognized, I just brush away as often as needed --whereas it used to rule my life.)

So with love and deep gratitude I am able today, after a recent upturn in my personal circumstances, to pledge my monthly contribution towards sustaining you and the work you do which has done so much to not only sustain me but to show me me sustaining me all along... and wildly if silently so.

To all those just starting out on the looking, or on the journey of looking, I can only say that I have found John's instruction to be of singular and central importance to embracing my life...melting into, becoming my own life...beyond what I was once even able to dream (but seemed always to remember) it could be.

Be well.

Well, be.

With love,

John

Jackx

I read John's blog about getting involved with the grassroots movement with interest and have a response. I am relatively new to the looking, 2 years into it, and have experienced an incredible change in my outlook on life. I have a strong desire to spread this message and have told many people about it. I am sure that at least 6 or 7 of my friends tried the looking and probably many more tried it that I don't know about. I have personally witnessed an incredible transformation in a friend who did the looking, got out of an abusive relationship and radically changed her life. I also work with kids and encourage them to look at themselves. I also put Johns message, website, etc. out there on a spiritual discussion group where I post on almost daily and am sure some have responded to it, perhaps many more have that I don't know about.

However.....I have no interest in joining the grassroots discussion. Don't know why, it's just not my thing. I think it's a mistake to assume that just because we aren't part of the grassroots, we are not spreading the word and are simply looking at our own individual recovery at the expense of others. I know I am spreading the word and I sincerely hope many more are. I hope we all keep up the good work, connected to the grassroots effort or not, we are still connected...

Hello Jackx,

Well, it seems that I wasn't as clear with what I wanted to say in my posts as I thought I was. But that's not so unusual, so let me try again.

We have come to see that the idea of an organized and directed campaign to spread news of this work was a misunderstanding on our part, and we have abandoned it. But we have never doubted that people who have seen the results in their own lives will naturally and spontaneously pass it on to their family and friends. In the first place, we cannot believe that someone who has actually begun to see the results for themselves would not want to give it to friends and family. And we have seen for ourselves the growth in interest in this work that can only be accounted for by this kind of sharing.

There are nevertheless many who do see liberation to be a solitary matter, and my remarks about that were meant to call that inclination to the attention of those who are new here and hopefully nip it in the bud. It was not meant to be a blanket accusation. Please forgive me if it seemed to be that.

What we want is exactly what you are doing in your relationships with friends and family, AND what you have done here now. In bringing your experience to the community, you enrich the ongoing conversation as to the nature of the looking and its effects and, most importantly, you allow all to see the ways and means with which folks like you are naturally offering it to those around them. My main purpose with that posting was to shake the bushes in the hope of bringing reports like yours to the attention of the community, and perhaps to give you the opportunity to see something of the current state of our understanding as a community.

I encourage all who read this to honor what has been given freely by contributing to the ongoing development of our collective understanding, an understanding which is the product of the work, over many years, of many people in conversation with us and each other, seeking to get the heart of the matter.

Please let us all know what you are doing and what works - just as Jackx has done here - and maybe even avail yourself of the continuing work that is taking place here to further the understanding of what we are doing, and why, and how.

I read John's blog and I experienced a lot of sensations so here goes... a fear of the stern critical father loving one minute then critical the next which has pretty much crippled my relationships with men my whole life. To speak of this now another fear arises of appearing powerless and stupid. (this would seem to be what John was pointing to about deconnection).

I allowed all these feelings to move through. moving my attention when I could to my breath.Today I listened to a podcast and of course only heard his loving tone and helpful intelligent discourse and recognize my projections... and still here I am.

Recently I've been doing work with craniosacral biodynamics which targets healing the birth trauma , the physical end emotional pain which is associated with it.I was ejected with forceps and still have chronic shoulder pain from this torture on the body.This is the truth of my process unfolding with the looking so this is what I share with this group of people.I move my attention to the feeling of me which creates a space for the body to relax and release this pain.I can only share what is my own experience. These techniques are very gentle and effective when presented in conjunction with the looking. Marketing on a larger scale may be possible as this basic fear is released..let's stay tuned.

Thanks everyone for being here. This community has been so supportive.

Maureen

Cytex

I am new to the looking. It has been one month since I started it. For me it is key to find my own words, my own language when speaking with other people about it. I think I now found an entry point that feels natural. Looking at me feels like recognition of me. Recognition is immediate and cannot last. I recognize the unchanged me, and I immediately realize that all atempts to escape, all fears of aging, loosing identity or value, or dying, are ridiculous.

This is very easy to explain as everybody knows how recognition works. It also helps to minimize the automatic defences that arise in other people when thay suspect being talked into something, or converted to something.

Thank you for this "Cytex".

Although I agree completely that you must find your own way of speaking about this, there are a couple of problems with what you are suggesting here.

The problem we seek to solve is not a matter of conscious understanding, such as the conscious understanding that looking feels like recognition. The looking actually feels like nothing but you. Further development of the experience as recognition is a movement in the psychological apparatus to take ownership of the act and put it in a category that will not threaten the defensive organization of the mind.

Now, to be clear, if you have accomplished the simple act of looking directly at yourself this misdirection will not stop the regeneration of the mind from unfolding, although it might prolong its duration. But if you suggest this to others as a method to accomplish that act you will lead them astray.

It's not that recognition per se is wrong or unwelcome, it is only that searching for recognition will find the experience of recognition long before the faint feel of you, that which you would call me.

I know that recognition is extremely satisfying, and can give rise to well-expressed thought forms masquerading as proof of success, but it is actually not the sweetness of recognition that we seek — it is the snuffing out of the unseen context in which all ideas of recognition and understanding form and fall ill.

And it is precisely this unseen belief that what is needed is a correction to a misunderstanding of our 'true nature' that has caused us to fail again and again over the thousands of years we have been trying to solve the problem of being human.

Please take this as part of an ongoing conversation between us all here to find ways of speaking usefully about this great gift we have been given. I mean no disrespect. You are to be commended for working with people you know and reporting it here. Your report and the conversations it triggers are the key to finding a way to reliably communicate this work to the world.

Thank you for your participation here.

John

Interesting, thank you for writing this, John. It is true, I am good at finding strong images that can resonate with others. And then I try to realize these visions, and convince others of them. Likely, this is motivated by the fear of life. So, I can understand it is not helpful to project the feeling or sensation of me into an image that emerged from the defence system, which itself evolved from the fear of life.

It is not easy to spread the looking. If I simply propose the act of looking people get curious. So I need words to explain. Otherwise they move on. If I then say: "it eliminates the fear of life" - people instnctively recede in face of such a big claim! And they want to know more. And then I get kind of lost, even with my sister, or a close friend of mine.

So I keep experimenting. How are you talking about the looking?

Cheers, Bruno

John Sherman

And it is precisely this unseen belief that what is needed is a correction to a misunderstanding of our "true nature" that has caused us to fail again and again over the thousands of years we have been trying to solve the problem of being human.

Well now I'm lost. Didn't you write in the "Look at yourself", a book that this is all about identity?

Re: Birth Trauma

Niklas

Hi all!

I have got the suggestion from someone that identifying the birth trauma as a possible explanation for the origin of the fear of life can stand in the way of the actual message.

Has someone else heard something about this? Or is there someone here that sees this as a hindrance in the way that this work is presented?

This has never been a problem for me. Even though I think it is both logical and interesting, it is just a possible explanation. It is not necessary to believe in that. The fear of life though does not need to be believed in. It is obvious that most people live with a terrible relationship with their own lives. And I also think it is obvious by now that the problem is psychological and that looking inward heals the mind and adjusts the relationship to our own life.

But if the birth trauma as a possible explanation for the fear of life is a problem and a hindrance to some, I think we should talk about it.

All the best to everyone,

Niklas smily

This is a good question, Niklas.

The idea that the birth trauma is responsible for much of the psychological illness in humans is not a new idea. It has had significant support in the psychiatric and psychological professions dating back to at least as far as Freud, in 1909. More recent research has identified the birth trauma as the cause of a debilitating post-traumatic stress disorder afflicting the majority of humans.

The paper titled "The Radical Act of Inward Looking" by Freedman, Goldberg and Reichmann contains several references to the commonality of this insight into the trauma of birth and its wide-ranging consequences. The paper is available as a free PDF download on our website, and anyone interested would be well served by reading it.

Of course, not all births are as traumatic and debilitating as those we believe to cause the fear of life to take hold. And there are many ideas and methodologies in use nowadays specifically designed to minimize that trauma; water birth comes to mind as one example. But the great majority of human births occur without such compassionate means, and the great majority of human beings are afflicted with psychological misery from the day they are born until the day they die. And the movement toward a more nurturing care of the newborn and mitigation of the traumatic effects of birth has come into being precisely because of this recognition of the damage caused by the birth trauma.

But unless you are speaking to someone who brings the subject up on their own during the conversation, there really is no reason at all to mention the birth trauma - even if you do speak of the fear of life as the guiding context of the personal psychological apparatus. And there is really no reason even to mention the fear of life at all.

It is a common understanding that the vast majority of human beings suffer from psychological misery. It is widely known that anxiety and depressive disorders afflict the majority of human beings in our time. And if you can get the person you are speaking with to agree to the widespread presence of psychological misery in human beings everywhere, that's all you need to continue on to presenting the looking as the cure for the misery. It is not even necessary that the person or people you are speaking with agree that they are among the ones afflicted with this misery. Understanding the problem and its cause is not required for the cure.

So, we pretty much agree with you that there is no need to speak of the birth trauma. If you look around our website, you will find that it is not so easy to find mention of the fear of life there, much less of our view that it begins with the birth trauma. You would almost have to be looking for it to find it. It is not in any of the menus, although we mention it in passing on the home page of RiverGanga.org. And there are links to ebooks and blog postings that speak of the fear and its likely origin, but we call little attention to them. And whenever we do make mention of the appearance of the fear of life at or near birth, we make it clear that this is only our opinion and that agreeing or disagreeing with this opinion is of no consequence to the core message of our work, which is nothing more than the inward looking at you, the person.

But I do think that those who have been with us for some time and have come to some understanding of the results of this work would be well served by looking into these matters so that they can deepen and broaden their own understanding of the scope of what we are doing here. A good way to do that is by reading through the material available on our website that lays out our thinking about this matter and provides support for our views. In particular, the ebooks The Fear of Life and the Simple Act of Inward Looking That Snuffs It Out and The Radical Act of Inward Looking, but also my blog posting titled Understanding the Fear of Life, and a number of other postings on my blog.

Thank you Niklas for the work you are doing here. You are a great help to us.

John

Re: Grassroots blog

John Sherman

Thank you for this "Cytex".

Although I agree completely that you must find your own way of speaking about this, there are a couple of problems with what you are suggesting here.

The problem we seek to solve is not a matter of conscious understanding, such as the conscious understanding that looking feels like recognition. The looking actually feels like nothing but you. Further development of the experience as recognition is a movement in the psychological apparatus to take ownership of the act and put it in a category that will not threaten the defensive organization of the mind.

Now, to be clear, if you have accomplished the simple act of looking directly at yourself this misdirection will not stop the regeneration of the mind from unfolding, although it might prolong its duration. But if you suggest this to others as a method to accomplish that act you will lead them astray.

It's not that recognition per se is wrong or unwelcome, it is only that searching for recognition will find the experience of recognition long before the faint feel of you, that which you would call me.

I know that recognition is extremely satisfying, and can give rise to well-expressed thought forms masquerading as proof of success, but it is actually not the sweetness of recognition that we seek — it is the snuffing out of the unseen context in which all ideas of recognition and understanding form and fall ill.

And it is precisely this unseen belief that what is needed is a correction to a misunderstanding of our 'true nature'' that has caused us to fail again and again over the thousands of years we have been trying to solve the problem of being human.

Please take this as part of an ongoing conversation between us all here to find ways of speaking usefully about this great gift we have been given. I mean no disrespect. You are to be commended for working with people you know and reporting it here. Your report and the conversations it triggers are the key to finding a way to reliably communicate this work to the world.

Thank you for your participation here.

John

Hi John, Even though I've heard you say something to the effect that you are still working on your communications (I ramble, or something like that), your response here, and others like it, are what keep bringing me back. There is such a clarity to your mind that can tease apart fine and important distinctions that someone with less understanding would have a hard time seeing or putting into words. Here, I just wish to express my appreciation of how nicely you do this. With regards to you and Carla and appreciation, as well, of your unwavering commitment to this, Marlowe

Re: Birth Trauma

Hi Everyone

I am really glad that Niklas raised this point. I have been tempted to comment on the subject for awhile. My feeling is that the birth trauma argument is a good frame to explain the arising of the fear of life and there is good evidence to suggest that it could be the culprit but there are probably other equally good frames. For all we know, humans are hard wired, prior to birth, towards vigilance as a means of survival with all of the arrows of attention pointed outward and the birth trauma, despite not being the primary precipitant, kind of seals the deal. Who knows? The cause of a vigilant and fearful orientation towards experience could be debated. However, its presence seems indisputable. So, as John has said on occasion, confirming the cause is, in some ways , beside the point. The looking, over time, seems to ameliorate the effects of the FOL which really is the key point in all of this.

As an aside, I think this fear of life frame is so helpful in explaining lots of what we do in life and don't do and avoid etc. It seems like so many of my psycho-spiritual life pursuits were in the service of answering one question, CAN I TRUST THIS? ( with the default assumption being "NO!"). In my own experience as a client/patient in psychotherapy it was about, "Can I discuss and trust giving voice to my story/cognitions? Can I name and trust, and express these feeling? Can I trust this person or that person or this therapist?" In the world of work it came out as, "Can I trust myself, my competence or my colleague, employer, workplace, career decision?" In the path of spiritual pursuits it came out as, "Can I trust my breath in this moment, my body, this sensation, these thought forms, this teacher/Guru." And with the looking I experienced a kind of flood of life that rushed in and my mind started to create all kinds of stories trying to make sense of it by casting it in an Advaita/Oneness frame, stories around enlightenment/self-realization, yada, yada, yada. All desperately in the service of seeing if I could trust the immensity of life hitting me from all sides.

I don't believe that there is a place of being done in all of this. Over time, though, life seems less scary and more and more precious.

Paul

Re: Birth Trauma

Niklas

Hi all!

I have got the suggestion from someone that identifying the birth trauma as a possible explanation for the origin of the fear of life can stand in the way of the actual message (....)

Dear Niklas and everyone here,

John read this posting and made comments about it during the Online Open House Meeting on February 12, 2014.

Carla

Re: Birth Trauma

Re: Birth Trauma

"Understanding the problem and its cause is not required for the cure". This is the case. But the cure is.

Re: Birth Trauma

Re: Birth Trauma

Thank you John and Paul!

Niklas

Re: QR code

A QR code on a t-shirt is a great idea. We already work with QR codes. We have them on our posters. T-shirts are good for promoting the work and also as a way to raise funds. In time, when we have more time and money to spare, we will be looking at ways to use QR codes more extensively.

Spreading the word around

Hi, John and Carla, and all you guys,

I thought I'd write and tell you about the way I spread the idea of looking around. Although this is my first write on the grassroots, I am trying very hard to spread the word around. I am a writer of songs and poetry, and I have joined different poetry sites on which I send my ballade style poetry around. Both myself and my wife have written articles for a site called Poetry Soup. I have written very many poems and narratives about the looking and John and Carla's work. At first I was getting very few comments for these poems, although I did place in a few poetry contests with couple of these writes.

Now that I am becoming more popular on the site I have a few people actually take an interest in the looking. I am getting quite a few views for these poems now, which means people are actually reading about the looking. So who knows how many will either try it or come to this site. I notice that as I read the stuff that others put on the poetry site, that there are more unhappy people on the site than happy ones, so maybe they will get the message and do something about it.

So all you people who know how to write could do this too, they tell me that every little bit helps. I have also helped a couple of people through the looking. My cousin in England has Parkinson's disease, and the looking has been a lot of help to her, and my niece had bad troubles with fear and was under a shrink, she found the looking was very helpful too. I will do my best wherever I go to spread the word around. Anyhow this is all I want to say. I wish you all well.

Peter

Dear Peter,

Thank you very much for all that you're doing to let people know about this simple and effective solution to human psychological suffering.

Love,

Carla

Thanks Peter,

I'm glad to see someone else had this idea as well.

I think if you've had any amount of success with the looking, then you should find a way to spread the word. You know what? I might try to write a novel about it one day. Humanity really isn't doing well as we know. At night I've been setting out free used books on the sidewalk near my house, to go with a short explanation of the looking written on a sticky note, with a link to the website. Four books have been picked it up so far, and one lady just took a picture with her iPhone. Luckily, I live in a religious area where people are open to this kind of stuff.

Yeah, I still have doubts, but there's a part of me that's certain about a full recovery.

Good luck to everyone,

David

Dear zinggy,

The idea of placing a sticky note with a short explanation of the looking in a free book is fantastic! Anyone else here is doing this? I donate used books to the free book stand in town, but it never occurred to me to do this. I will do the same from now on.

Thank you for the great suggestion!

Carla

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Or on the memo line of your checks you can write the words: Look at Me. It may probably be the case that as someone has ALREADY looked, then just these words "look at me" trigger the already ongoing observation that for some unknown reason that life is in just a word, swell. John and Carla's suggestion to Look at Me is a sufficient greeting. Other than that I want to encourage donations of any amount to continue this greeting.

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Local Meeting

Robert Andersson and I have been having a local meeting in the spirit of Just One Look. And we wanted to share with you a short summary of our experiences of that meeting. We had been talking over the phone, and we spoke a couple of times, which was also a very nice experience. One day we were talking about the tendency to speculate more than to take actual action in trying to spread this method, and why that was so. That phone call actually ended with us taking action where we decided to meet to bring this new impulse into life and to discuss things we have had on our minds for some time.

We decided to meet in my home in Denmark where Robert would stay until the next day. Both Robert and I are from Sweden so we had no language barriers to handle. And although we had never met, it actually felt very natural and uncomplicated after we had decided to meet. Personally we both connected very easily and it was great for both of us to be able to meet someone in real life that had been in recovery for some time. It was very confirmatory and useful to spend some time together.

Our meeting had two purposes. Firstly, we just wanted to meet. And secondly, we wanted to talk about working with this method on a global scale but also on a more local scale. Here are some of the topics and questions that we discussed:

Is this work to be addressed globally, locally, or both? Are social and cultural differences a factor when presenting this work? And if social and cultural differences do not play a part in the actual receiving of the message to look at yourself, does it play a part in how to work with this method in one's own context? Is it useful, for example, in Sweden, to adapt the work to the "Swedish ear" to eliminate misunderstandings and confusion? And would it be a good idea to have a kind of local working groups that worked in their known environments, to both find ways to spread this method and to find ways to finance the work in an overall perspective? We discussed, so to speak, how this work is best supported by its supporters and in what possible ways that could be done.

So the meeting resulted of course in more questions than answers, but nevertheless the questions feel important for us to work more with. And what the meeting also undoubtedly gave us was the experience of taking action and a feeling of a more "real" connection to the work. And that counted for both the more personal level regarding our recoveries, but also regarding the work in the big picture. So we have decided to meet regularly and see what comes out of it. And if more people in our area are interested, we would really like to invite you to join us. If you are interested, please let us know through the forum chat. And we also recommend that others who wish to take another step in this process, but are in other parts of the world, do the same. To meet in real life is really a powerful and interesting thing to do and has good effects on many levels.

We will keep you updated on further developments.

Niklas and Robert

Hey Niklas, that's great to hear. You're right, it really is powerful to meet in real life for many reasons. To me, nothing is more powerful than word of mouth as far as spreading a teaching like this. In fact, I find this true in a number of areas in life in general. I make my living off of word-of-mouth. My father has as well for over 40 years in his business. Because I've been using these teachings for less than 8 weeks, I haven't been talking about this as much as someone who has been working with this teaching longer and seen results in their practical lives. But, because of the experiences I have had using the SDA practice, and my years in spiritual healing and studying and practicing various forms of meditation, I have shared this teaching with a fair amount of people including one small group. I am involved in a new project which will involve myself and colleagues speaking to large groups of people starting in the fall. Because of copyright issues that haven't been established yet, I was told not to share specifics of this venture yet. That being said, one part of my presentation will be on meditation and what some people might think of as 'spiritual concepts'. So, if I see practical results in my daily life using John's teachings, I feel this teaching would be absolutely ideal - especially because I wouldn't have to use any 'spiritual terms' that may oppose another's belief paradigm. I feel the way John and Carla are presenting this teaching can appeal to many different types of people from all different cultures and belief systems who are experiencing a lot of suffering.

To continue with the word of mouth idea and meeting together: For several years I was part of a worldwide healing group and facilitated 1 of 3 groups in NYC. We would meet every three weeks and there were usually 20-40 people in attendance. There are three groups in NYC in different locations of the city as well as groups in the surrounding areas of NYC. I think the meetings really were good for a variety of reasons, but, especially, because of the personal connections that would be made, as well as that energy of excitement some people would have about the teachings, especially after hearing other people's successes with it. It's a shame I didn't know about the SDA practice when I was involved in that group because I consider the SDA practice to be an evolution of the main practice of the group! Anyway, this group started in the 1970's and has always been by donation only - just like John and Carla do it. It started in a lady's living room in Germany with only several people and, simply by word-of-mouth, it has become one of the biggest spiritual healing groups in the world. Obviously, as numbers increased, they were able to collect more donation $$, which led to being able to rent spaces for doctors to come and talk to people and funded movies about these teachings which are shown in places rented from donation $$. A large portion of these movies, and the whole teaching, consisted of people's testimonials to how the teaching benefitted them. I would think there is nothing more powerful to spread a teaching than a word of mouth testimonial about how a person benefitted positively in their practical lives from following a teaching. So I feel it's great that John and Carla are collecting and posting the testimonials of people and their successful results. The guy who taught and demonstrated the teaching I have been referring to emphasized the great importance of testimonials and always tried to get people to write down their experiences, as well as getting medical doctor's verifications whenever possible, and this continues to this day. BTW, this guy was big on self-reliance and that all the power and answers are within us, just as John talks about.

All this to show the powerful energy that can be generated when people get together to discuss ideas/teachings out of just a pure motivation to help one another. To have a teaching that just wants to help people, that is non-profit, and doesn't try to foist a belief system onto a person, is very rare I find in the world. It creates a very pure energy and, in my experience, these types of teachings far exceed others in power and effectiveness as compared to teachings where there are other 'side/main motivations' involved not directly related to alleviating a person's suffering.

Love this! I might jump on a plane and join the next meeting.

You are very welcome to do that Jack!

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Growing Grassroots

Hey everybody, I have a few questions but one main point: What can we do to grow grassroots?

It is somewhat a mystery to me that so few people and posts show up in this sub forum. To me it is very plain that everybody everywhere, the whole world, are bat shit crazy scared, of everything, all the time. It looks entirely hopeless and depressing, a complete tragedy with no end in sight! Am I the only one? What's going on here? Why aren't we in here, as the only group of people who actually know what to about it all, doing more, working together to stop the madness? I have no interest in blaming right now, it is an honest question. Is it fatigue?

Through periods I fall into my own life, having things to do, chores to be attended to and fun to be had, So I can see that this is one reason, simply living an already satisfactory life, maybe such a daunting task is not on top of the agenda. But don't you feel like me when you take a walk downtown, visit the grocery store or see something on TV, like everybody around our little oasis in here are really, and I mean really unwell, and you alone have the key to fix it? Are you perhaps already working privately in your community? These too are honest questions, because if you do feel similarly to me but don't feel like working actively towards a sane human world then I would be very much interested in talking about what makes it seem unattractive to do this, even if it is just a matter of time or interest. All of us are walking wounded and every voice here counts equally for me. I believe so strongly in this community and our potential you can't imagine, and I would much like to know your thoughts on this.

Thanks for your energy, Roed! I guess I'm plugging away, but also enjoying my life very much. I try to tell others when I can, but honestly, it's not always well received. I don't know if there is follow up. I believe you're right, there is much fear, confusion, and general neurosis, especially in the United States right now.

I am still somewhat inward focused, monitoring what comes up as more layers in this process are peeled back. Six years after the looking, i believe I am well beyond the recovery period, but still watching old conditioning come up or be exposed.

I would also also like to see more activity here and I guess I have to engage as well. Thanks for the nudge.

I have some insights on this. I think besides you and Jackx, there does not to seem to be many people applying the SDA exercise, after the looking, to get results in their lives. Some other people have had success just doing the looking, but this is still not a very high number comparatively. The whole process seems to take quite a long time and takes commitment. I just don't know of anyone who is following this particular protocol for long enough to speak of results and promote it. I continue to do it because of background I have with another very effective healer who talks about the vital importance of having focused attention. And, now, my own experience does show me personally how the effectiveness of focused attention can be useful in so many aspects of our lives. I have decided to give it a full year of practice to see if I notice any improvement in my practical life. And I do define this improvement as even just simply not suffering no matter what happens in my practical life, even if it doesn't get better in a 'traditional sense' Obviously, this is tremendous freedom.

Let's take a look and J&C. They could of easily become 'solitary realizers' after having the experiences of losing all suffering but, instead, they chose to devote their whole lives to spreading out this teaching to as many people as possible. To me, that speaks volumes of their integrity and a high level of consciousness. They want as many people as possible to become set free by this teaching.

The problem is that this seems like it is a several years investment of time in this system to develop any type of true freedom from suffering. It's not like people are going to undertake this teaching for several months and start to post testimonials about the wonderful experiences they're having. As you might imagine, this is probably difficult for J&C because they are devoting their lives to this teaching and are relying on donations and support of that nature. But it is hard to give support when you are not really experiencing results that are somewhat noticeable over a period of months. IMO, it greatly helps to have a background in other seeking and modalities that bring psychological health. You usually also have to be suffering enough to have Life motivate you to undertake a practice such of this.

So J&C certainly don't have it easy! Will they be able to have enough $$ to continue before some more years pass and people are able to start reporting actual tremendous results on a consistent basis? Remember, the whole implementation of the SDA exercise after the looking is fairly new. More years have to pass and enough people have to be practicing this new protocol seriously for there to be a kind of 'explosion in popularity' where this teaching is recognized as a tremendous answer for the freedom of suffering. Right now, I am going with the belief that this teaching will really work. I do think there are enough of us doing this practice now on a consistent basis where this could happen. I just hope J&C can 'stick it out' long enough to see this happen as well. After all, they're the ones who created it, are promoting it, and bringing it to the world!

Right? It is not well received here either. In my country we are supposed to feel ashamed about doing well, so it becomes oxymoronic trying to tell someone about the experience of living beyond fear. It is a real challenge introducing this work to people and I thought it would become easier in time, but on the contrary I actually find it harder now than ever.

Many around me are recovering but virtually no one is interested in this project. Maybe my presentation is lacking here and there but the fear is without a doubt the main problem. It seems almost to act like an opposite magnetic pole to our work here, people avoid it, don't want to hear about it, know about it.

I'm more than happy to share some energy, it's pretty much all I can do right now. I'm also focused inward as things change with new things to learn all the time. But with this thread a nudge is precisely what I was hoping to achieve, to just get talking. Talking kicks ass smily

Hey roed,

A couple of examples I wondered that may be relevant. This would probably mostly apply to people who are closer to you, who you have a personal relationship with. Being self-employed, I have studied various entreupeneurs who give talks about how they succeeded in various forms of investing. Having had the opportunity to hang out with several 'self-made millionaires', one common variable that they all had in common was that they stressed the importance of spending time with others who were succesful in the same field they wished to be succesful in. That this is the main way that these people, who were previously aspiring millionaires, claimed that they learned how to achieve the success of those they admired in that area of their lives. They got an overall idea of how these people lived their lives, how they conducted themselves, and their overall behavior in life.

I've also studied various forms of spiritual healing over the years. This has brought me into many different belief paradigms where physical and emotional healings have occured by non-traditional means. When hanging out with those who were of a christian belief paradigm who had various healings happening around them, I also noticed a common demoninator when interacting with these people. They always told me that the way that they 'preached' their beliefs were not with their mouths, but by their actions. (Note, I am reffering to those I consider to be true christians where actual healings occurred). They said they preached by the way they lived their lives and, of course, the healing occurences that happened around them. But they never tried to 'convince' me of their own faith by speaking to me about it.

I wonder if this type of idea could be applied to people who are very psychologically healthy. Could it be that, when you reach a point that J+C are at, that those who are close to you may be effected and interested just because they feel the energy that you personally embody? In the example of the millionaire investors, they did have to use the spoken word to advertise what they were speaking about but, once the audience was attracted, then they basically simply explained their lifestyle, conduct, and how they were able to achieve success in that particular area. They weren't trying to 'convince'. And I found the same type of idea applied to the true christian people I interacted with.

So J+C promote their teachings by the books and the website and the yt videos, among some other things. But I notice when listening to John, he never gets too specific and stresses that each person will have their own unique, individual experience, so he doesn't like to go into too much detail. This was directly helpful to me when John spoke to me personally about this when I first got into these teachings. I also remember J+C had advised me when I spoke about the justonelook teachings to say as little as possible about it, and to just post a link to the website and instructions on what they were teaching. I have been following this advice. I wonder if this is one of the reasons J+C have been going out on the road again actually. To get people to know them personally and see that they were living what they were teaching.

So these are the ideas I'm currently having about all this and I figured I would put it out there for consideration.

All the very best,

Lex

"Right? It is not well received here either. In my country we are supposed to feel ashamed about doing well, so it becomes oxymoronic trying to tell someone about the experience of living beyond fear. It is a real challenge introducing this work to people and I thought it would become easier in time, but on the contrary I actually find it harder now than ever."

Roed, one more thing I feel compelled to ask. You don't have to feel pressured to say what country you're from if you're not comfortable in doing so, but I just have to ask, What is the philosophy behind the idea that one is to be ashamed about doing well? I can't currently recall ever having heard of this as a 'nationalistic' sentiment. I mean, it seems to be counter-productive to just the very logical idea of a country. So I'm from the USA and am coming from that perspective in thinking I just can't wrap my head around the idea that any country in the world wouldn't want to promote itself and better itself. Especially if we are talking about 'politics and countries' where I think the idea of separation is more prevalent then for those involved in endeavors such as researching and seeking about the meaning behind the life we're living. Wouldn't the idea be that those involved in promoting the idea of a 'country' that's separate from other 'countries' would be that they would want people to be as proud of their accomplishments as possible? I mean just for the overall good of the country and making that country look good? I'm just interested in why this philosophy exists where you're from.

Thanks and all the very best,

Lex

Interesting question Lex, I'm from Sweden and nationalism and patriotism are frowned upon here it is safe to say, because in our culture it is equal to saying that "I am better than you are" ("my country is better than yours"). If for example you have success with money you should keep that to yourself, to not be a thorn in your neighbour's eye who might not have the same opportunity as you. Yeah it's not more or less logical than any other culture I'd say it just works on a wholly different premise than say the US. Is it coherent? I don't know, I don't think so, it is fear based, just like the incessant strive for individual gain beyond what's necessary. So yes, it is clearly shameful to get ahead - and especially to take pride in it. Paradoxically it is not in the interest of the country to look good, on the contrary, looking good equates to boasting, which implicitly devalues everybody else's position, as well as it points out the uncomfortable social fact that life isn't fair, so it is taboo. This is my simplified take on it, if you're interested you can look up the "Law of Jante" which we kind of have consensus is a decent, although cynical, description of the underlying philosophy of Nordic values. I think the "Ten Rules" sums it up pretty well and can perhaps indicate some of the apprehensions that make it challenging to work here.

About studying people skilled in things, I have done this too with sports and it has been super effective actually, just to copy what it seems the experts are doing and take it from there. I'm sure it can be done with a lot of things.

roed_

Interesting question Lex, I'm from Sweden and nationalism and patriotism are frowned upon here it is safe to say, because in our culture it is equal to saying that "I am better than you are" ("my country is better than yours"). If for example you have success with money you should keep that to yourself, to not be a thorn in your neighbour's eye who might not have the same opportunity as you. Yeah it's not more or less logical than any other culture I'd say it just works on a wholly different premise than say the US. Is it coherent? I don't know, I don't think so, it is fear based, just like the incessant strive for individual gain beyond what's necessary. So yes, it is clearly shameful to get ahead - and especially to take pride in it. Paradoxically it is not in the interest of the country to look good, on the contrary, looking good equates to boasting, which implicitly devalues everybody else's position, as well as it points out the uncomfortable social fact that life isn't fair, so it is taboo. This is my simplified take on it, if you're interested you can look up the "Law of Jante" which we kind of have consensus is a decent, although cynical, description of the underlying philosophy of Nordic values. I think the "Ten Rules" sums it up pretty well and can perhaps indicate some of the apprehensions that make it challenging to work here.

Thanks roed,

I was reading about the 'Law of Jante'. Yeah, I agree..it is pretty fear based. There's a couple of the rules that I think are positive..but I think this is better if it occurs naturally as a result of dissolving egoic illusions. I mean I think in ways it's better than the mainstream US culture where if you have more $$, you are looked upon more favorably. Of course this is only mainstream culture and I find that people who are interested in the things we are, as well as artists, in general have a totally different awareness of what makes a person 'special'. The type of people I look up to are the ones who embody great humility, compassion, love, kindness, etc.. I don't know if you find this true in your own life but, for me, the vast majority of people I am friends with, or come across in my work, are people who tend to have similar types of values that I do.. So, yeah, I do think 'like attracts like'. Even reading the different people who post on this forum, and they seem to be from all over the world, it seems that many of them share similar ideas/values to myself. Thanks for sharing man!smily

All the very best,

Lex

roed_

About studying people skilled in things, I have done this too with sports and it has been super effective actually, just to copy what it seems the experts are doing and take it from there. I'm sure it can be done with a lot of things.

Yep, I'm sure jazzrascal would agree with me when I say that, in learning jazz improv, you copy those musicians you admire and, in failing to duplicate them exactly, you develop your own unique style.

I would make a good Swede.

Ljazztrm

Yep, I'm sure jazzrascal would agree with me when I say that, in learning jazz improv, you copy those musicians you admire and, in failing to duplicate them exactly, you develop your own unique style.

Yeah, and maybe this is reason enough for us to just interact on here. Not saying anyone's an expert, only that it's useful for me, hard to define but somehow it helps me think. I know this isn't primarily a social platform but it is what we have, and because of the context that we want to work with grassroots I feel it's right to keep going smily

About cultural differences the perspective of cultural relativism comes to mind, which means that any person or group should be studied from within their own context and circumstances for there to be any meaning to the findings. It's an anthropological term that basically means that since everything we do arises within, and in causal relationship to, our context - the mix of social, psychological and geographical factors that make out our mental and physical environment a.k.a our life - nothing humans think, do or say can be said to be more or less right or wrong but rather everything is contextual. In other words, which things seem weird and what things seem like normality is always a product of a cultural reference frame and ultimately a social construct and as such can't be compared outside itself. Would you eat goat's brain? For me that sounds gross but for someone else it might be a delicacy, and to understand how such other "worlds of meaning" hang together we need personal experience from inside those contexts or we will remain ignorant of the true meaning of those behaviors we are interested in. Take note that this perspective is only a tool for analyzing society and not some inherent truth or anything like that.

A quote from John which keeps coming back when writing this is "Everyone is doing the best they can given the circumstances they find themselves in" (along those lines anyway) from one of the old retreat videos I believe, referring to how the fear of life makes us desperate to "solve" the crisis of being alive, and that human aggression is but a symtom of this struggle, so no one is to blame. That is basically cultural relativism but coming from a different context, one which I am only beginning to understand.

Back on topic though - how we can grow grassroots. By organization you say, I agree with this. We need a movement!

The other day I invited a class mate to check out the JOL website. This time, instead of going with the approach of looking as an antidote for anxiety and fear I sold it as a method one can use to take full control of their own minds, and to see what is really true. People in my city and age group are seldom interested in receiving help or talking about anxiety, we are supposed to figure things out for ourselves, every man for himself, in - as some say - the loneliest city in the world, getting help or asking for help is uncool and goes against the grain. This other approach - to turn to the looking as a form of "lifehack", if unfamiliar you can check out a definition in the urban dictionary - proved to hit home at least with this particular person. Now I feel that using this approach could make it easier for the crowd I am around to accept that the stupendously simple method of JOL coupled with SDA actually works. In other words, instead of focusing on the vanishing of anxiety, focusing on the emergence of true self-reliance, something outside the realm of all the internalized fantasies about what effectiveness really is, or actually outside all internalized fantasies period. I feel like this approach brings up much less stigma attached to it than talking about mental suffering does. Mental suffering is kind of irrelevant once it's gone anyway. Please advise me in case this reasoning is missing something vital, I'd like to know.

I'm thinking aloud here, to get your opinion on this as I'm trying to figure out a way to reach the folks around me. Most of them have done the looking and are going through changes but deny or dismiss its value, which they very well might do for long time to come, perhaps forever, and that is a waste. Personally I want everyone or at least most - in any case more - people to understand what sanity and self-reliance entails. If they did I bet they would not only spend less time in recovery but maybe also be more inclined to get aboard with J&C's message, making it possible for them to work with us, or parallel to us, in whatever situation they are in. I'm sure they will personally be fine in time nonetheless, and however beautiful that is in itself, this time it is beside the point because meanwhile our home planet and mother is being literally ravished, together with our beloved cousins species. In the name of fear, by means of increasing violence, exploitation, and alienation everywhere - our aggression spreads like a plague through the various forms of capitalism and modernity that are so pervasive today, while our attention rests on petty bickering and escapism. All, of course, due to the search for a sense of security that never comes. Well, until it comes, that is. So let's make it happen! For the love of life, let's make it happen lookers! smily

Dear Roed_,

This is fantastic. Great insight. We believe it is indeed a great way to present the JOL Method to people because, of course, this method IS the greatest life hack of all. We are going to work this week on a small presentation of Just One Look as the mother of all hacks. We will send it to you as soon as we have a draft (Hipchat). We would love to have you work with us on it.

Thank you! smily

That's wonderful Carla! Yeah, would love to help. Let me know what I can do. smily

Hello everybody,

Niklas and I met up again in December. We had been speaking on the phone every now and then since our first meeting and we both felt like it was time to catch up IRL. This ended up with me going to Denmark once more, where I was greeted warmly as ever by Niklas' family and himself. I stayed for a few days and tried to join in the daily routine of life in their household as best I could, and every once in a while we had some time for ourselves where it was possible to go a little further into particular subjects. But a lot also happened spontaneously in reaction to what arose in the moment. Having little kids around offer many such opportunities, if you didn't know! And just like last time I had a totally wonderful stay. During these days I felt very much in balance, in tune and had a lot of fun.

Many of our conversations were naturally about Just One Look and our common vision to one day be able to give full attention to this work. How can it can be done realistically? This is a question that keeps coming back. It is a tricky situation for both of us, probably for others here too, that we are in the midst of our lives so to speak and need income to sustain ourselves. On the one hand it is in the nature of this work to be freely available for everybody but on the other hand there are costs associated with providing it. We talked about how it is to live in relative freedom in relation to a fear driven society, what some of the challenges and opportunities are. For example, we are both Swedish and therefore have the good fortune of having access to universities for free. How to best take advantage of the situation, how can we use this resource for the good of our cause? Hanging out in this way and speaking our mind was similar to how Niklas described it after our last meeting - quite powerful - both for the specific areas we worked on, but I think just as importantly it was a very reassuring and constructive experience in a more general sense. It feels good to meet other people who are going through the same sort of things.

I'd like to mention one more thing, a kind of conclusion which felt particularly insightful at the time. The insight was that perhaps this entire process of planning and working to get Just One Look to humanity can be seen as an aspect of our own personal recoveries. Why else are we so intent to do it - and is it not a more direct and practical point of view anyway? It seemed quite real in that moment and thinking like that left me feeling like I better understand what the circumstances of doing this are. Ultimately speaking me is you and all that, but that's not what was meant. Rather that it is an unfolding of our own lives that is going on and that seeing it that way instead of trying to save the world all at once may empower us to find more appropriate activities to focus on. After all it is our lives we are living and it is the only thing we can do anything about. Have you ever had the experience that you see something clearly and then when it's articulated it sounds so... redundant? Oh well.

The meeting really sparked the imagination and got the 'ol cogs turning good, and like last time I think we ended up with more questions than answers. Nothing wrong with that, on the contrary! We are still quite eager to grow our group, if just to see what might happen! So send us a chat message if you'd like to hear from us next time we're planning a meeting, we would be happy to welcome anyone to join in. Thanks for now, stay tuned!

"Look at Me " is the lyric of a a well known jazz standard. Maybe that can trigger something. smily

mischa g

"Look at Me " is the lyric of a a well known jazz standard. May that can trigger something. smily

As a kitten up a tree? Just was playing that on one of my gigs a couple of weeks ago. Still a very popular standard. smily

Not so sure about the message "I'm as HELPLESS as a kitten up a tree..." ;) smily smily

I guess that's the fear of taking that first look. smily

jazzrascal

Not so sure about the message "I'm as HELPLESS as a kitten up a tree..." smily smily

I guess Erroll Garner and Johnny Burke weren't seekers.

I may just be starting a 'revolution' in the NYC jazz community as I start to share JOL". Having less thoughts racing around the mind in general is, in my experience, paramount to letting the music flow through, especially while improvising. Equal to that, I think it brings more confidence overall. And no worries of becoming addicted to substances to do all this. Although I'm probably addicted to SDA now! smily

Just remembered a funny jazz quote from a Simpsons episode. "Nobody likes jazz THAT much, even the guys playing it had to take drugs."

We gotta change the way society is viewing us jazzrascal! smily

Maybe an advertisement for jazz musicians for JOL would be: "Get 'into the Zone' with JOL. All natural and no side-effects..Act now!!!" smilysmily

Great idea, Lex!!!! Maybe we'll come to NYC for a meeting one of these days... We have never had meetings on the East Coast. We only went as far as Chicago.

Ljazztrm

Just remembered a funny jazz quote from a Simpsons episode. "Nobody likes jazz THAT much, even the guys playing it had to take drugs."

We gotta change the way society is viewing us jazzrascal!smily

Maybe an advertisement for jazz musicians for JOL would be: "Get 'into the Zone' with JOL. All natural and no side-effects. Act now!!!" smilysmily

I knew there was a reason I've never been a Simpsons fan! smily smily

I love that motto.. Get into the Zone with JOL! Seriously though, it's great that you're spreading the word in NYC. I'm sure a lot of the cats I used to know would be into it. And if John and Carla go there, that would be a total gas!

The message that hits home is "focused attention" If your hitting it on the bandstand just say "I'm practicing focused attention"! That's what I say . As far as zones go, you can zone in or zone out!

As far as Erroll Garner and Johnny Burke go...That combination of poetry set to music is perfection. smily

"Great idea, Lex!!!! Maybe we'll come to NYC for a meeting one of these days. We have never had meetings on the East Coast. We only went as far as Chicago."

That would be great Carla! Depending on my own, and others, experiences dropping the 'soldiers of fear' with the SDA, maybe they'll be enough people interested and we could rent out a room at the Edgar Cayce center on W. 27th St.

mischa g

The message that hits home is "focused attention" If your hitting it on the bandstand just say "I'm practicing focused attention" !!!! That's what I say . As far as zones go, you can zone in or zone out!

I didn't realize you were a jazz musician as well mischag! JR emailed me and sent me some of your stuff. Great playing man smily Three active JOL forum members are jazz musicians. Wow! That's pretty cool. smily

New feature on Facebook

Facebook birthday greetings are wildly popular. People love to send birthday messages to their friends, and the more friends you have, the more messages you get. For example, I have around 2,000 friends and usually get at least 250 greetings.

Now FB has a new feature, which is that you can include requests for donations to your favorite non-profit on your birthday. Your special day will be announced with a description and the website URL of your non-profit and you can add any comments you want as to why you think it's worthy. Seems to me this might be one way to help get the word out about JOL.

Two spontaneous shares!

This might not seem like a big deal, but just since yesterday I was able to share JOL with two people...yay! One is an old online friend who mentioned in a FB post that she is afraid all the time. I wrote back and said I had found a way to overcome that, and this morning she emailed me, practically begging for information! So I wrote her back, told her a bit about JOL and how it is benefiting me, and sent her the Lookers Tell Their Stories and The Just One Look Method ebooks.

The other one is a woman I met on FB through various spiritual groups. Yesterday I wrote about JOL on one of the groups we both belong to in reply to a post the admin had put up about the importance of attention. This woman and I had been texting back and forth for quite some time about the various teachings we'd been looking into, etc., but had been out of touch since I got involved with JOL. She saw my remarks on the group and texted me, so I told her a little bit about my experience and sent her the books, too. She's just as happy as can be, because she's had a long, hard struggle.

Anyway, this is the first time I've shared it, and it felt good! smily

Great!

I know the feeling, to share the JOL Method is in a way as great as finding it yourself.

Yes, Niklas, it's hard no to want to share this!

Thank you Amy, for this suggestion! Great idea.

Here's our Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/JustOneLookProject/

Everyone can donate to Just One Look at https://www.facebook.com/JustOneLookProject/ now.

Thank you very much for your support of our work!

Hey Carla, what's the difference between donation to Just One Look and the Just One Look Foundation? Does it all go to the same place? Best, Lex

All donations we receive are to the Just One Look Foundation (formerly The River Ganga Foundation), which is our non-profit organization, recognized by the IRS as a 501(c)(3) public not-for-profit organization. Just One Look is our main project. There's a more complete explanation here: About the Just One Look Foundation.

Getting John and Carla to Europe

In a recent Wednesday meeting a few of us talked about getting together and arranging for John and Carla to come visit us in Europe. That project will be easier, and more interesting I think, the more we are who work on it. There is literally no plan yet, only a willingness to make it happen.

I wish to ask that you PM me your email address if this interests you in any way. It could only be to meet John and Carla in Europe. Nobody knows how it will happen yet, we will work it out together. In the meantime we can use this thread to talk about the matter more generally. smily

I am very happy to read this post . I hope this will wake people up to this new possibility, who live in Denmark, Sweden and Germany. smily

European tour update. Remember the old Chinese proverb: change ''faster'' then planning. Basically this means, plans take a lot of time (which many of us don't have much of) and have a tendency to fall apart if the focus is to far off in the distant imagination ! Therefore the most effective way to begin a new adventure is to gather together with 'other's of like mind; agree to form a core group of sponsors and coordinators who are willing to take action.

Sounds good to me.

What's next?

What I want to do is to work for promoting sanity by looking. I have started to put notes on billboards and such around where I live with a very short and simple message about how to look at oneself, and the link to the justonelook.org website. It's all I can think of to do right now. How do we proceed to liberate our mad world? I was at a retreat where stressed out people go to get well and was able to get the looking to a number of people there. People are ready to pay for some crazy stuff because they think that's what's needed to get well. A woman was saying how she was seeking extreme situations to get in touch with her inner self, and that's where I told her that I had been using a similar strategy before but now I just look at myself instead.

How about a slogan: Look at yourself - It's your birthright!

Something to put on a sticker, or something, with the Owl and the Website. Even better to squeeze in a simple instruction. I could put them all over my town.

I'm still around and wish love and gratitude to everyone here.

Good suggestions. Just curious, what do you gain by going on the retreat? Is it a social thing?

I live in Denmark. I am working with a group of 200 people who recently sponsored Amma (known as the hugging saint in India because she has given darshan to millions of devotees all over the world) Amma comes to Europe every year the past 30 years .She came with 380 devotees to a large sport hall in Copenhagen this past Oct.I was part of the team of people who helped put things together. I'm sorry to say. I dropped helping John, but have not lost faith in the idea. (Not to critic) People in Europe who follow John "have to be willing" to do more then post little sticky messages on public billboards .The Amma visit was a big success with 7000 people in attendance, over a 2 day period. The event took many years to make happen .It taught me a big lesson - one must never give up! Over 100,000 Euro was collected and spent "creating the event" as well as taking in a 50.000 Euro profit in Donations collected for Amma's next visit, plus 50.000 paid direct to Amma's charities In India .In the past.. I've arranged weekend seminars in Tai-chi all over Europe for Chinese Kung Fu masters. I've temporarily "stepped out" of trying to organize anything with John ,because of the lack of "basic response" in this forum on John coming.I feel people must be sleeping on this subject. Who knows? I soon will travel to India and to the US in California in the late spring. If John is doing some kind of event, I hope to stop by. Sometimes one has to knock on the door of truth many times before it opens! Enjoy your boat travels. I hear many Russians vacation in Goa in the winter. Lots of fun and good luck in your travels! Roger

What you write Roger, is from my view just crazy. The way you are used to work in spiritual settings you describe, will never work with spreading the JOL work. And as long as you view the JOL work as a spiritual practice with spiritual teachers, I can't be a part of such a cooperation and therefore also my silence.

The looking has freed me from many old ways of doing things, including every solution from the spiritual realm. The Just One Look Method is new and requires a new fresh way of doing things.

Niklas

And remember Roger, the "new way of doing things" is already happening around the world. Just because you don't see any big events happening it doesn't mean that things stand still. A lot of people around the world share the looking with people on a daily basis. And that is precisely the new way. You, me or anybody else can share the just one look method as effectively as John can, at least after some training. The message is there to share for anyone. We don't have to rely on any wise men or women, we can do this our self and that is all thanks too the work John and Carla has evolved.

I would like more people to know and benefit from this. It seems to be the best kept secret. Although I did get to know of this practice thanks to his shot on Buddha at the gas pump which is a spiritual porthole. Ironically the just one look method got me totally off that treadmill and I've been with this for 3 going on to 4 years now.

Please Donate

Hi all,

Have everyone here read the latest Just One Look News (Volume 7, Issue 10)? John and Carla wrote:

"We wish we did not need to ask, but we really need your help.

We believe that being free of fear is the birthright of every human being, no matter their financial situation, so we continue to offer our work free of charge to all, with no strings attached.

We really need you to support our work with a donation if you can. That's the only way we can keep working and continue evolving.

We still need to raise $980 in recurring monthly donations to cover our basic monthly expenses this year. If you consider all that we offer absolutely free of charge, that is not a huge amount.

If we do not cover that gap soon, we will not be able to pay all the bills, which include rent on the house where we work and live. All the money we receive in donations goes directly to this work, nothing else. We do not receive salaries for our full-time work.

We already cut down to the bare minimum and we cannot cut anything else or we will have to shut down soon.

We have enough proof of the immense value of Just One Look and its capacity to change lives from inside out. We have seen many hundreds of people get great results over the last 20 years."

I know that it is easy to ignore the money part. Especially when the services here are free. But I think it would be really cool if we together could reach the monthly donation goal at $980. I think that would benefit this whole community. So dear fellow looker, if you haven't already, please do what you can to save this work. Everybody here knows that the looking works.

Niklas

There is much power in the fact that everything here is given completely free of charge to anyone. It makes all the difference, in my opinion.

So I would also like to ask you who are familiar with this work to support it by a monthly donation to the foundation. If you have only a little money that's okay, and if you have more then you can give more". It makes perfect sense.

Thank you for thinking it over,

Robert

Dear Roger,

It has never actually been a project for me to get John to Europe. But if he came I would surely welcome him as a friend. But essentially, what Europe and the rest of the world need is not so much John Sherman, but more the Just One Look Method. The method is developed by John, but the method is not dependent on him. I'm not trying to argue with you. I am just saying that I think that your past experiences with organizing meetings are not automatically useful in spreading the JOL method. Your organizing skills are of course really great and probably much more advanced than my own. But you still seem to believe a person can transmit something of value to another person. I think it is of great importance to see that John Sherman is not a spiritual teacher. He can not transmit anything to us. We can only help our selves, by working with the JOL method. That's why it called a method and not a teaching. So, if we were able to raise money I think it would be better to send them directly to the Just One Look Foundation instead of buying plane tickets and rent seminar locations. In that way, the money would come to much better use in letting more people here about the JOL method.

And when and if the spiritual jargon falls away from your conception of the JOL work, I would happily work together with you. I mean that sincerely.

Take care,

Niklas Lindström

This thread is inspiring and we are heading into the summer of 2020 at a time when many of us are coming out of isolation.

With hope

Hello everyone. I know many people are having a difficult time due to the virus and it's consequences, but I would really like to encourage everyone here who isn't donating monthly, to start donating monthly. If you truly cannot afford it then that's that, but you know, even a few dollars each from a couple more of us will make a difference for this work.

I now live what was promised to result from the looking and it's unbelievable. It's just ordinary me and ordinary life, perhaps a little more ordinary than before, but without a nagging sense that there's something wrong. I, and life, is now at least for the most part without contraction and without distance. I'm most often at least fairly calm, satisfied and I truly in love with life. I thought I had ADHD until recently but in the last couple of months those characteristics hasn't showed up much at all. I feel just the opposite of ADHD most of the time.

To look at what it feels like to be me. Could there be anything less harmful or simpler to do than that? I mean, the idea that it wouldn't be a good thing for anyone to do is inconceivable to me now. Even for someone who doesn't get to hear about what might be possible in a mind that does it.

I feel it would be beyond sad if this work doesn't make it to as many people as possible.

I hope you are all doing good.

Rickard

A good reminder Rickard! To have access to a work like this for free is uniq. And to support it with small manageable donations is actually a very creative and interesting way to make it accessible.

Take care,

Niklas

Well said. I hope some more people can reflect on how little it takes and how rewarding it could be for all of us.

Take care you too.

Rickard

 

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