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How to rid yourself once and for all of the fear of life that spoils life and find satisfaction using a simple act of inward looking



Looking is what we all do naturally when we focus our attention on anything present in our consciousness. For example, right now, as you read this, your attention is focused mostly on this text and its meaning, more or less ignoring everything else.

1. Notice that you can move your attention at will

Now, move the focus of your attention away from this text for a moment and place it on the feel of your breath as it moves in and out of your body through your nose. Focus on the sensation it causes as it passes across the flesh of your nostrils on the way out. You may find it easier to do this with your eyes closed.

Now, start counting your outbreaths:

Breathe in. Breathe out. When the outbreath ends, count silently to yourself: 1. 
Breathe in. Breathe out. When the outbreath ends, count silently to yourself: 2.

Continue counting each outbreath in this way, until you reach 10, and then start over at 1. If you lose count, just do the same thing: start over at 1.

Continue with it for one full minute, and then return here and continue reading.

Do not skip this step.


2. Move the focus of your attention to the feeling of 'me'

In the same way that you moved the focus of your attention to your breath, move the focus of attention inward, looking for the faint sensation of what it feels like to be you. What you would call 'me'.

What you are looking for here is the simple me-ness of you. Not the thoughts and emotions and sensations that rise and fall within you.

You really cannot fail in this. Remember, what you are looking for is only you, and you must be here. It's not necessary even to know that it happened, or remember what it felt like, but it is necessary to actually do it in just the way I have laid out here.

If you are unsure now whether you succeeded in getting that moment of a direct taste of you, here's something that may help.

Try to remember a moment in your childhood. It can be anything that you can remember yourself doing. It doesn't need to be anything special, just an ordinary memory of an ordinary event. When you have that moment in mind, look for what it felt like to be you in that moment. Try it now.

If you succeed, you will immediately realize that what it felt like to be you then is exactly what it feels like to be you right now, isn't it? It's exactly the same me-ness as now. Look and see.

That's all there is to the simple act of inward looking that is the actual solution to the common experience of life as misery and dissatisfaction.

If you followed along, you have just accomplished that act and set a course towards sanity and satisfaction.

In time, your relationship with your life will change. Things that used to drive you crazy won't have the same effect on you anymore. Patterns of neurotic behavior and self-destructive reactions will be replaced by more positive, non-destructive ones.

The distance between you and your life will diminish and a new kind of intimacy with your life will slowly begin to emerge.

Just like that. It starts with one look.

Just One Look. It's that simple.